For Tigs on her sixth birthday

I haven’t ever really been one to go in for the ‘on your birthday’ posts before. Perhaps I’ve not really felt the need, made the time, or given it thought on this blog. Birthdays can fly by in a crazy whirl of planning, doing, hosting and celebrating, that often the actual milestone of being another year older gets lost amidst the mayhem.

But this year, it’s pulling on my heart strings a little, that my first born daughter is six. I guess it’s because the past year has seen such a change in her. Both physically – as her legs have shot up and her face slimmed down, as well as developmentally, with all that 18 months at school brings.

Last year she was just learning to read and write; this year we have war and peace on every scrap of paper she can get her hands on. And, as I watched her open some early cards at a family gathering last weekend, she read the words written inside, without prompt, for the very first time.

Her artwork which has always been such a huge passion of hers, fills our home and I struggle to keep up with where to put it all – never bearing the idea of throwing it away. Her hands are never clean, even ten minutes after a bath they are covered with pen lines again, and as we always say, that’s the sign of a true artist, which is what she claims to want to combine with teaching when she grows up. Saddened by not being able to choose between an artist and a teacher, she’s never forgotten that I explained she could be both.

Suddenly, our little tot doesn’t seem so tiny any more. She has learnt what it means to help others, to value the things she has, and express her own views. Never more so than how she decided wholeheartedly that she could never eat the animals she loves so dearly, nine months ago. And never has a piece of meat touched her lips since.

Tigs, at just five years old, you’ve shown incredible patience and nurture towards your sister, who worships you. Your ability to help me encourage her to eat, to be well behaved and to try and potty train her is just heart warming, and at times I haven’t been able to take much more of the day, you have stepped in and talked her down from her toddler tantrum in a way that leaves me both astounded and a bit ashamed. I’ve often thought that you are a better Mum than me.

You have shared with her, read to her, played with her and been an amazing big sister. May you girls always share that bond that I see before me now, and don’t let life get in the way of how you love each other so deeply.

I will always cherish this stage as you probe and question all that you see around you. Life, the universe, death and nature. You have been so frustrated at not being able to get back to the allotment while the winter took hold, the love of the outdoors and wildlife being at the very core of you.  Life mesmerises you and you take it all on board in a sensitive and caring way. When we recently lost your great Nanny, you didn’t shy away from asking questions, and yet you accepted and understood in a way beyond your years.

And yet, your eyes fill with tears as you show such deep emotion when a story makes you sad, or you worry about others.

Your friendships with your oldest friends remain so important to you, and you have embraced new friends along the way. This year you got to join your cousin, who you adore so much, at a gymnastics club, and I rarely see you the right way up anymore. Whilst you may have proven to be a fair weather footballer, you made your Daddy and I so proud to be the only girl on the football squad.

In so many ways you have changed so much, but yet when I kiss you goodnight before I go to bed, laying asleep with your glasses on the table beside you, you still look and twitch in your sleep the same way you did as you lay in the moses basket beside me, six years ago.

We are so proud of you, our crazy, kind, happy little flower fairy. One day you will change the world my darling.

Happy Sixth Birthday.

x Mummy

 

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22 thoughts on “For Tigs on her sixth birthday

  1. fiveinthehive2018 Reply

    Happy Birthday to your little one! #Coolmumclub

  2. pamsbakeandbabyblog Reply

    I always think that these birthday pots would be incredible to print off and make into a book to read when they are mothers/fathers themselves. You daughter sounds like a very special little girl and you seem to have a great bond. #coolmumclub

  3. minihumanresources6 Reply

    Aww my eldest daughter is 6 next month too. I literally cannot believe where the time has gone. It’s funny but when I look at her sleeping, she just looks like a bigger version of the little baby who used to lay in my arms and sleep for hours (while I caught up on trash tv :-)!) x #COOLMUMCLUB

  4. thewillowtree1 Reply

    Ah happy 6th birthday to your daughter! #CoolMumClub

  5. Louise Reply

    What a beautiful post. I hope Tigs had a wonderful birthday. She sounds like such a lovely little girl, kind and thoughtful and creative. Six does feel very grown-up though – I feel the same when I look at Jessica! #coolmumclub

  6. motherhoodtherealdeal Reply

    I can’t believe she is 6! having met her before I can testify to the fact she is a wonderful little lady….sending lots of birthday #coolmumclub love to her! Hope she had a fab day xoxo

  7. Life Love and Dirty Dishes Reply

    Awww, that’s beautiful. Tigs sounds so thoughtful. I hope she has a wonderful birthday. #coolmumclub

  8. Nicola wiggins Reply

    This is such a beautiful post! So well written and heartwarming x what a lucky girl to have a mum like you x #coolmumclub

  9. viewfromthebeachchair Reply

    Happy Birthday Tigs!!! #coolmumclub

  10. Emma T Reply

    Hope Tigs had a lovely birthday. She sounds like a very well balanced little girl, and I love that headstand photo. #coolmumclub

  11. franbackwithabump Reply

    This is gorgeous and she sounds such a lovely and creative girl. Hope she has a wonderful birthday xx #coolmumclub

  12. Nicole - Tales from Mamaville Reply

    I can imagine how mature they get at six; I’m sometimes in awe of what my four-year-old says and the way he thinks!
    Reading and writing without help must be such a joy to see!!! Happy Birthday, and here’s to a fab six.
    #coolmumclub

  13. The Nuthatch Nest Reply

    Wow. What a beautiful tribute to your little girl. And what a lovely thought that one day she will get to read it. I don’t really know what else to say, a very touching read. Xx

  14. Tubbs Reply

    Ah, happy birthday Tigs. Hope you all have a lovely day

  15. Navigating Baby Reply

    Ah that is just lovely. My eldest is about to turn seven and I can hardly bear it. He is like a proper little human now!

  16. talkingmums1 Reply

    Happy Birthday! My daughter turns six soon and she sounds just like your daughter. I think they develop so quickly once at school don’t they x
    #coolmumclub

  17. Kate on thin ice (@kateonthinice) Reply

    Beautiful and sounds to me like she has already changed the world and in a very wonderful way too. Put me in mind of my own daughter in some ways #CoolMumClub

  18. Charlotte Stein Reply

    Happy Birthday Tigs! I love her change the world T.shirt. I haven’t ever written a Birthday message before but Im thinking of doing it for them this year, as like you say, the time just races by. This is such a lovely way to record the years and their milestones. PS great tortoise drawing!

  19. The Queen of Collage Reply

    What a lovely post. I understand how sometimes the eldest takes on a mothering role. Happy Belated to her. #CoolMumClub

  20. crummymummy1 Reply

    It’s bonkers how quickly they grow up at this age isn’t it – BB is six, seven in August, & a proper little woman now. Happy birthday! #coolmumclub

  21. Wendy Reply

    This is beautiful, what a lovely post for Tigs to read when she’s older.sounds like you have raised a really wonderful daughter there Hun xx #coolmjmub

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