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As you look back on your time as a parent you are presented with a whole host of different ups and downs. The rollercoaster ride that happened from day one, and that’s still happening now takes you on quite a journey. There has been laughter, tears, upset, heartache and smiles, as you watch your little ones grow up.
When it comes to parenting there is no handbook; you aren’t given a manual which outlines every single element what you’re about to go through. You might have found it useful to read books when you first became a parent, but they are nothing like the real life experience.
Sometimes you just have to stop and pinch yourself when it comes to the ride of emotions you have been through during your life. The moment you became a parent your entire life changed for the better. Your world became centred around this tiny human being, who relies on you for everything and anything. As you watch them grow older you are suddenly faced with the reality that bad things can happen. The terrible twos, the marital arguments, the school days, the teenage years; there is so much in store that you weren’t actually prepared for. Your goal as a parent is to always make your child feel loved and special; that’s all that really matters to you. If you are yet to become a parent you might benefit from some of the following pointers, so that you can prepare for the rollercoaster experience just head of you.
Family Break Ups
When your family goes through a tough time you can start to question yourself as a parent. You and your partner aren’t getting along like you used to and it’s putting a lot of strain on your marriage. You always want to do the best for your kids, but it isn’t always that easy. Speaking to family law solicitors might just help you to reassess your situation and give you some much needed advice. You don’t have to suffer in a marriage that’s making you feel uncomfortable, even if you always dreamed of having the ‘perfect’ happy family. What you see in the fairytales doesn’t always come true, so you need to find your own personal way of dealing with it. As long as you always put your children first, you will make the decision that is right for you individually.
The moment when your little tiny baby starts eating grow up food will be a huge turning point in your life, especially if they are your first born. Watching them touch and taste new flavours, colors and textures is second to none. If you’re nervous about weaning your baby, then it’s absolutely normal. Switching from milk to baby rice and vegetables seems like a huge step, not to mention the influx of nappy changes that come along with this territory. Speak to your healthcare provider and they will be able to give you plenty of advice on where to begin when it comes to weaning your baby.
As a new parent you are probably always looking ahead to their next milestone. First they rolled over, then they sat up; they started crawling and said their first word. All of these hugely poignant moments in your baby’s life will be treasured forever by you. If you want to capture every single important milestone, then you should definitely consider creating a baby book. After you have had two hours sleep and you haven’t washed your hair in a week, you probably won’t feel like keeping it up to date. However, this might just be one of the best memory makers you ever create for your newborn.
Everybody talks about the terrible twos, but what happens when they continue into threes and fours? You’re left tearing your hair out and worrying what you’re doing wrong. Try not to worry; every parent goes through this feeling at some point in their life. Children at such a young age don’t have the ability to communicate their feelings in an adult manner, so they often use screaming, crying and throwing themselves on the floor as their method of choice. As long as you remain as calm and patient as possible you can, you will be doing the best job. Their tantrums will soon pass and you will miss those days, believe it or not!
The School Years
When your little one starts school for the first time it is a hugely emotional rollercoaster that you will never get over. Seeing them walk through those front gates with their backpack and lunchbox will be a priceless memory that brings tears to your eyes. Soon enough they will be making new friends, learning at a rapid rate and saying words that you don’t even know the meaning of. You will wish you could turn back time more than ever, but it is important to embrace their education as much as them so that they can become the wonderful member of society that you hope them to be.
It’s not so much a chapter in your parenting life, but holidays will definitely help you all to create a tonne of amazing memories. When you plan a trip as a family, there is no bonding experience quite like it. Whether you’re staying close to home or jetting off to a more exotic climate, you will never regret the moments you take time out altogether. When you can all appreciate a different culture together it’s a really special moment. Take plenty of pictures, document each trip and hold those memories close to you forever.
Now they are really getting older and you can start to see the teenage mood swings kick in. They spend most of their evenings locked up in their bedroom with their headphones on or games console fired up. It can be very difficult to reason with a teenager; you just want to cuddle and kiss them; when they think it’s the most embarrassing thing in the world. You have to allow them to have their own space to grow, whilst keeping them safe at the same time. It’s a difficult balance to strike, but your instincts will let you know where to draw the line.
The First Heartbreak
Everyone knows what it’s like to have their heart broken for the first time; we have all been through it at some point in our lives. When your child goes through this it can almost be more painful for you than them. “How dare someone upset my little boy or girl?” Talk to them openly and honestly about what they are going through and you might even be able to make them feel a little better. Over time their heartbreak will pass and they will soon be back to their bubbly and vibrant self again.
The Feeling of Being a Parent
As a parent you will be well equipped to deal with any situation that falls in front of you. From tears to tantrums, that’s what being a parent is all about. If you can muddle through the bad times, laugh at the good times and make decisions on the spot when you’re not really sure, you’re going to make one of the best parents there could possibly be. It is very hard to describe what being a parent is actually like. You only know the feeling once you have experienced it for yourself. Being able to share your personal experiences and knowledge with other people in the same boat as you is a truly magical feeling. Never stop expressing your emotions as you might be able to help someone else in need.
It’s true to say that bringing up a child will be one of the proudest accomplishments of your entire life. You will go on to brag about them, praise them and wish them the best for their future. There is nothing in the world that will stop you from loving them, no matter what you go through in your life. Your heart will always have a place for them, whether you’re married, divorced, single or in a committed relationship; it simply doesn’t matter. As long as a child can feel unconditional love from both of their parents, they will always thrive in their lives.
You want to bring them up to be confident, strong willed, ambitions human beings who always try their best no matter what. In order to do this you have to be able to let them grow. When they become independent you will feel the need to grow closer to them instinctively, but you have to allow them to mature. As soon as you can learn that fine balance you will be able to be the best parent you can possibly be.
Whether you’re a new parent or a parent to be you certainly have a lifetime of emotions ahead of you. Enjoy every precious moment you have with your little ones and deal with stresses calmly and rationally. You are set to be a wonderful example for your children, so don’t ever worry about being less than amazing.