#coolmumclub: Meet the Members…The butterfly mother

#coolmumclub has become a collective of Mums who are pretty amazing for many different reasons. I’d like to introduce you to Laura, an inspirational blogger Mum flying the flag for the many many new mothers who are hit by hard by Post Natal Depression. Motherhood isn’t always a bed of roses for sure, but sometimes it goes way beyond that. Laura’s blog is a light at the end of the tunnel…a reminder to have hope that it will get better…and an understanding hand to hold for those of you who are going through the turmoil of PND. 

I think this is the perfect post to start the series for 2016. After all, New Year is a time of hope, reflection and new beginnings. It’s a tough time on those whose lives aren’t so peachy.

#coolmumclub: Meet the Members will be back every Friday in 2016…see you there, and if you want to get involved, please do drop me an e mail to mummuddlingthrough@gmail.com.


Why I started blogging

I’ve always loved to write, from a really young age (and I have the cringe-worthy poems to prove it!). But when I began working full-time it was a hobby I gave up, focusing on reading ad my job instead.

When my son was born in 2013 my whole life was shaken up; after experiencing crippling insomnia, no appetite and constant panic attacks I was diagnosed with Postnatal Depression & Anxiety. I was completely crushed.

Recovery has been a long, difficult journey (you can read all the gory/hopeful details on my blog!) and what really helped me at the beginning was reading blogs and threads from people who were now recovered. The most common fear for anyone suffering from PND is “I will never get better.” Reading stories of people who did was the only thing that kept me going.

I made a promise to myself that when I felt well I would begin sharing my own story online to reassure others that there is a future and you can find a way back to yourself. Seven months ago, The Butterfly Mother was born.

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What I blog about

My experience of PND and Anxiety
Tips and tools for managing symptoms and recovering
Hope & helpful info
Peer support
My son & motherhood in general


Why I love blogging

When I began The Butterfly Mother to help others I had no idea how much it would help me too. I love writing again and have enjoyed finding my voice on this topic. I find it helps to keep me in good mental health too, and provides me with an identity outside of “Mummy.” But the thing I love most is meeting wonderful people – both in the mental health community and lovely, talented parent bloggers like yourselves!


The future

I have many more PND and mental health related topics I wish to cover. I have several guest posts planned which is really exciting, including some more for the Huff Post blog (you can find the first one here ) I have begun advocacy work for perinatal mental health too.

I also wish to blog more about motherhood in general and key topics – feeding, weaning, play, nurseries, working parents etc. I will be beginning a feature soon called Caterpillar Corner which centre around parenting posts that aren’t necessarily linked to PND, so watch this space.

Thank you for having me, #coolmumclub! See you at the next linky…if not before at one of these corners of Internet…


Laura x


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42 thoughts on “#coolmumclub: Meet the Members…The butterfly mother

  1. Robyn Reply

    Laura I love that you have such a clear vision about what you want to do with your blog and how you want to help people. I’m so glad that awareness and help for PND is growing all the time and that you got the support you needed. Looking forward to your Caterpillar Corner posts 🙂 Thanks for another ‘behind the scenes’ Sarah.

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you, Robyn 🙂

  2. Agent Spitback Reply

    Hi Laura, thank you so much for sharing your story and your blog – definitely very inspiring! I agree that you always think I will never get better, I am so alone…but reading other stories, meeting other people – that definitely helps! It can actually be a huge turning point for many. I look forward to reading more of your posts!

    MMT – thanks again for hosting this series.

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you, lovely! It’s definitely important for mums not to feel alone in this situation, that helped me a lot personally x

  3. An imperfect Mum (@animperfectmum) Reply

    What an inspiring story! I think many woman still feel shame to admit they suffer from PND and that there remains a lack of understanding about this illness. I love how you are shedding light on this often taboo subject.

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you, that’s definitely my aim. To reduce misunderstanding x

  4. motherhoodtherealdeal Reply

    Always so fab to get to know our members a bit better especially when they are brave enough to blog about something like PND so honestly! Great series lovely co-host #coolmumclub xx

  5. Anna Brophy Reply

    What an enormous smile your son has; would totally light up the room, I’m sure. Good on you for sharing your story. It’s tough enough having a baby, let alone suffering with PND and Anxiety. What a challenging time. #coolmumclub

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you! He is certainly a happy boy (most of the time!) which is very reassuring for me x

  6. Mrs Lighty Reply

    I haven’t come across your posts yet Butterfly Mother but I’ll definitely be taking a look! Thanks for sharing your blog with the #coolmumclub 🙂

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thanks! I hope you enjoy them x

  7. rhymingwithwine Reply

    Hi Laura. It’s lovely to learn a bit more about you. You must be very proud of your well written, inspirational and honest blog. I hope it takes you everywhere you’d like to go in 2016.

    Thanks for hosting and another fab guest post MMT

    Dawn x

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you so much, Dawn, it has certainly brought me a lot of comfort and happiness x

  8. Mrs Tubbs Reply

    Knowing what you want to do and what you hope to achieve from it really helps you keep on keeping on. Good luck with everything you want to do in 2016

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you 🙂 x

  9. beautybabyandme Reply

    Such an inspiring post. As a new Mum who has recently been dealing with some emotional difficulties it is so important that people speak out about PND like you have. It’s brave and not something people should be ashamed of. I can’t wait to read more of your blog. I think you’re incredibly inspiring. xx #coolmumclub

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you, that means a great deal to me. When I was ill the only thing that made me feel better was hearing from other women who had reached the other side. I made a deal with myself that if I ever got there I would share my story with the world so here I am! 🙂 x

      1. beautybabyandme Reply

        Good for you! It helps so much to read your story! Xx

  10. ljdove23 Reply

    Lovely to read this and see people speaking out about PND. I have lived with PND for almost twelve years, a whole host of other mental illness, and I talk about it every single day because it is SO important not just to raise awareness, but to know that there is nothing at all to be ashamed of. Looking forward to reading more of your blog. #coolmumclub

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      I’m sorry to hear you’ve struggled so long, mental illness is beyond awful. But I’m really glad you are able to talk about it so freely as that can help so, so much. I will be checking out your blog too x

      1. ljdove23 Reply

        Thank you.

  11. Jess Powell (Babi a Fi) Reply

    I love that the blog has such a positive goal, to help people suffering from PND and raise awareness. I was lucky to avoid PND but have struggled with depression for years, and it does make such a difference to read about how other people cope and come out the other side of it. x #coolmumclub

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you. I try to be positive alongside honest because it helps me as much as anyone reading I think. I’m sorry you’ve struggled yourself and wish you well going forward x

  12. Helen Reply

    Wow, you are so brave and so proactive. Well done. How lucky fellow PND and anxiety sufferers are to have your support and information x #coolmumclub

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Aww, thank you 🙂

  13. Becky, Cuddle Fairy Reply

    I love these interviews. It was fun to learn more about Laura & her background. I’ve found blogging to be beneficial too – it’s amazing what writing & a bit of creativity can do for you! #coolmumclub x

  14. Unhinged Mummy (aka Janine Woods) Reply

    Hi Laura.Thanks for sharing your story about PND on your blog. I’m glad to hear that you are bow re over in and that blogging is helping you and others of course. Very inspirational.

    And thank you for hosting #coolmumclub MMT 🙂

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you x

  15. This Mum's Life Reply

    I have read many of your posts, and always finish them feeling inspired, emotional, and awestruck at how beautifully written they are. It’s great to hear about how much you are doing for the PND cause, and how blogging has helped you so much in your recovery. I too had debilitating postnatal anxiety, which also exacerbated a pre-existing underlying depression, so your posts always strike a chord with me. Good luck with everything you have planned for the blog! Lovely to hear more about you, and put a face to the name! xx

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you for your kind words x

  16. Told By Mum Reply

    Yay! The cool mum club is back! Laura – lovely to hear about your blog. I need to get some of the vision and focus that you have! I’ll look forward to popping over for a visit! #coolmumclub

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thanks! I’m not always focused though lol! x

  17. Claire at Tin Box Traveller Reply

    I think it’s absolutely brilliant that blogging helps people connect with others and share their experiences so that they know it’s ‘not just them’. It also takes a lot of bravery to bare all online so I have a lot of admiration for bloggers like Laura for sharing her story for the benefit of others #coolmumclub

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you, Claire. I find it helps me just as much as anyone else x

  18. maestromummy Reply

    Inspiring post. Well done for raising awareness of PND #coolmumclub

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you, it’s definitely an important topic in my eyes x

  19. occupation:(m)other Reply

    Lovely to get to know Laura more. This is a great series. I thinks it’s so brilliant when people feel they can share their stories of something like PND…it really is a powerful way of helping other people in the same situation as well as hopefully helping the individual process their experience. Really like that you’ve got some exciting plans for your blog too! #coolmumclub

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you, I completely agree that sharing is so important which is why I love reading parenting blogs so much x

  20. The Anxious Dragon Reply

    It is great that your blog is providing a means to help you with your mental health while at the same time helping other people who are going through PND.
    Being a Huff Post blogger is amazing too, well done xx #coolmumclub

    1. butterflymum83 Reply

      Thank you x And yes, posting on The Huff Post is really exciting too x

  21. butterflymum83 Reply

    Thanks so much for hosting me here, MMT, and thanks to all who commenting and read. Looking forward to next week’s #meetthemembers 🙂 #coolmumclub

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