#coolmumclub: Meet the Members…Sugar and Spice and all things Spliced

Nicola has been a regular at the #coolmumclub linky since the beginning. I’ve really enjoyed her posts so far (my fave being ‘Let them be little‘ (#TeamTiny), although ‘Low Papp A‘ was one that really stayed with me too… I couldn’t have been more chuffed when she offered to contribute to this guest series, so I could find out a bit more about her bloggy background. I can certainly relate to how you describe loving writing Nicola…my old boss told me he had never read such a long Annual appraisal self assessment in his whole career 😉 Guess some of us were born to blog…

You can follow Nicolas blog ‘The chronicals of the new Lighty family’ here…or on Twitter (@MrsLighty) here.


Approximately six or so months ago, Mrs Lighty had one of her hair-brained ideas. “I know, why not combine this seemingly overwhelming task of being a new mummy, feeling like I don’t have a clue what I’m doing as a mother and questioning every decision I make with writing about it all?”, Mrs Lighty thought. Well, what could be simpler than combining a new little tiny person that demanded pretty much all of my time, attention and anxiety with a blog which would then consume the rest of my time, attention and would involve sharing my anxieties with the world?!

A very anxious new mummy therefore resurrected the blog site that had been registered four-an-a-bit years previously when I was newly married and intending to write about all the things that newly wedded bliss brings. And so All Things Spliced was born (again). Of course, four-and-a-bit years later, quite why I thought I’d now have the time to maintain my blog regularly with a newborn in tow, I don’t know, but that’s what sleep deprivation will do for a girl!

I guess I’ve always had a love of writing; a love of telling my story. Perhaps that’s a bit narcissistic, but it’s the truth. My school German teacher once told me that no one had ever kept in touch with their year 7 German penfriend right the way through to the sixth form – except for me. But I loved both receiving and writing those letters. When I later moved to Austria as part of my degree, I sent letters backwards and forward to friends, relatives and Mr Lighty alike. Whenever I could get to an internet café (blimey, how old am I?! Do internet cafés even exist nowadays?!) I’d convert those letters into mass emails sent to everyone back home. After Mr and Mrs Lighty got married, I committed our big day to internet print in the form of a wedding report for a popular magazine forum. And that’s what I used as my submission piece when I then went on to get my copywriting gig when I was made redundant a few months later.

It was my copywriting ‘boss’ (for want of a better word…I know, I’m a writer, and I should be able to come up with something better, but baby brain prevails!) that suggested I start a travel blog as a portfolio for my writing, which was where An Answer on a Postcard, Mrs Lighty’s original blog site, came from. I loved immortalising my travels – both from my then day job and my leisure trips with Mr Lighty – in the form of print. But after years of writing the site and even going on a travel writing course to learn a bit more about the technique, I just wasn’t getting anywhere with the blog, and so I never really took my blogging that seriously.

Until Baby Lighty was born, that is. I suddenly had the perfect excuse to write down all of my memories; to create a treasure chest of Baby Lighty’s life for him to look back on as he gets older. And more than this, I could chronicle exactly how I was feeling – particularly when I was at my most anxious as a new mummy – to not only see how far I had come, but also to hopefully help other new mums feeling the same way, too.


It started out tentatively at first. I shared my blog solely with the girls on my Facebook baby group. And when they were kind enough to say that they were enjoying what I was writing, I told my NCT friends. They have been so supportive, right from that very first day of sharing it with them, and if it hadn’t been for their positive feedback, the blog would probably have stayed pretty much private.

That is, until that one day when I was having a good mummy day: the dishwasher was loaded, I’d had two hot cups of tea and Baby Lighty was napping, and in a fit of braveness, I shared my little blog with the world (aka, Facebook). In my wildest dreams I did not expect the positive comments received by my family and friends, and later on, strangers, too. People were actually reading my blog! And not only that, but they seemed to be enjoying it! And better still, people were relating to it, either telling me that they’d been through what I was going through (and most likely, what I was worrying about that week) or that I’d made them feel better. And even though it’s not the most fantastic blog in the world, having not quite found my style with regards to the look of the site, and even though I still cringe just a little when someone says to me “I read your blog about such and such”, as it still feels like I’ve given my diary over to everyone to read, I feel so incredibly proud of what I’ve created.


And as part of this new mummy blogger life came with it a sudden plethora of new blogging friendships and the wonderful world of linkys. I tentatively started to join in with a few link ups a few months back – often making big blunders along the way – and have come to discover some fabulous blogs through them. I think it’s safe to say that quirky Mrs Lighty has never been ‘cool’ at anything, so to suddenly be accepted in the blogging world – and in particular within #coolmumclub – seems to be very cool indeed to me. What a lovely lot you fellow bloggers are!


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69 thoughts on “#coolmumclub: Meet the Members…Sugar and Spice and all things Spliced

  1. Something About Baby Reply

    I LOVE your blog Mrs Lighty! I honestly look forward to every one of your posts, and seeing what you and Baby Lighty have been getting up to. You have also been a massive encouragement for my own blog, and have supported me greatly with all my silly (usually Twitter related!) questions. Well done for being featured on this series – #coolmumclub is my favourite linky 🙂 keep up the fabulous work xx

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ah thank you! I appreciate your support too! Love our mutual bloggy friendship as well as our real life one 🙂 PS, #coolmumclub is my favourite linky too!

  2. Robyn Reply

    Great read Nicola, there’s a lot in your writing and on your blog that I can relate to! I also find myself feeling very awkward when people in real life mention my blog to me, I wonder if we ever get over that???

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ah thank you so much Robyn! I don’t think I will get over that little inner cringe!! I also love how people say “I read your blog sometimes, but not ALL the time”, like I’m going to quiz them on the subject matter, ha!! Xxx

  3. rhymingwithwine Reply

    You know I’m your biggest fan Mrs Lighty! You write such beautiful and heartfelt posts. You are most definitely #cool in my opinion! (Plus your little man is beyond gorgeous!)

    Thank you for sharing MMT xx

    1. Rhyming with Wine Reply

      Just popping back again through #coolmumclub Thanks for hosting MMT xx

      1. Mrs Lighty Reply

        Ah thank you for you kind comments as always! I love our mutual blog appreciation society!! 😉 xxx

  4. Franjones Reply

    Great post and thanks as ever for hosting #coolmumclub

  5. occupation:(m)other Reply

    Ahh lovely post, so nice to hear how you blogging evolved to where you are now and to hear how much you enjoy it. Haha the cringe made me laugh…it’s as though there should be an unspoken rule…you can tell me you like via the written form but this shall not be actually mentioned between us! #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ha! Yes it is an unspoken rule!! My mum shared one of my posts about childcare the other day and I didn’t know she is friends with our childminder!! The childminder left some lovely comments on my mum’s post but it has never been mentioned between us in person, ha!!

  6. Becky @ Educating Roversi Reply

    I’ve just found your blog through #CoolMumclub meet the members and I’m looking forward to reading more! I was the same in that I share with a few friends and then the positive feedback encouraged me. In this last week I’ve hit 1k followerson Twitter and I’ve been nominated in several categories for the MADS so I’m really happy with how it’s going. Keep going with what seems like a brilliant blog and I look forward to seeing more!

  7. islandliving365 Reply

    Awww lovely post. I always like to read why people start blogging. You are very ‘cool’ Mrs Lighty 🙂 #coolmumclub x

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ha! Aw thank you. I like to think I’m officially cool is as part of the #coolmumclub 😉

  8. Sarah Howe Reply

    Aww I like Mrs lighty’s blog too and I love reading how people got started and gained confidence with it! Here’s to many more years and thanks for hosting xx

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Thank you, that’s very kind of you xxx

  9. beautybabyandme Reply

    Lovely to read about you and how you got into blogging. Now following your blog and looking forward to reading lots more xx #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ah thank you, that’s very kind of you xxx

  10. Double the Monkey Business Reply

    I often wonder why I started blogging once I had kids and have no spare time. When I think about it, they are providing the material though Lovely to find out more about you xx #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Thank you! Yep another one of my hairbrained ideas! How hard can this motherhood thing be, right?! 😉

  11. My Petit Canard Reply

    Really lovely to read about how you came to blogging. It always so interesting to hear other stories. So many commonalities, but then also so many differences. It sounds like you were born to blog 🙂 Love reading your posts! Emily #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ah thank you. When the blogging’s going well it feels like I was born to blog, but we all know what blogging block is like!! I do enjoy it on the whole though 🙂

  12. min1980 Reply

    Loved reading this, admittedly mainly because out of all the “blogger stories” out there, this is the one that feels most similar to mine. I also had a private blog, a chequered blogging past going back years (OK, so yours isn’t chequered, but it does go back years), several different blogs on different topics and a love of multi-national penfriends. Great to read your story Mrs Lighty! I need to go and read some more of your posts now. #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ah thank you! Got to love an international penfriend!! One of my friends told me the other day that she’s kept all of my letters from Austria, which was so lovely, especially as we lost contact after that point and have since reconnected 🙂

  13. Mrs T (@SothisismeMrsT) Reply

    Mrs Lighty i’m heading right over to your blog now!! xx #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ooh thank you! Will do the same back to you! Xxx

  14. Nadia - ScandiMummy Reply

    Thank you for sharing this with us all. Always love getting to know the members of #coolmumclub

    Nadia – ScandiMummy x

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Thank you, I enjoyed writing it 🙂

  15. Tall Mum in Manchester Reply

    I’ve not seen your blog before, but it’s been interesting to read your story of how it came about. Heading to find you on social media now – the joy of #coolmumclub!

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Thank you, I’ve followed back 🙂

  16. Something About Baby Reply

    You already know I’m a huuuuuge fan of your blog Mrs Lighty! Popping over from this weeks #coolmumclub, thanks for hosting MMT x

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Thank you, and you know I’m a huge fan of yours too!! 🙂 xxx

  17. motherhoodtherealdeal Reply

    Yay for Mummy Lighty! Keep up with the blogging…and blogging friendships too! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely x

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Thank you, and thank you for having me as always! Xxx

  18. Emma Jones Reply

    Will definitely have to check out your blog. Lovely post. #coolmumclub lifeinthemumslane

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Thank you, I’ll do the same to yours too 🙂

  19. Mrs Lighty Reply

    Great subject matter this week, MMT!! In all seriousness, thank you for having me, I loved writing the post and am so pleased to have contributed to #coolmumclub 🙂 xxx

  20. sarahandlouisemumstheword Reply

    Pleased to ‘meet’ you Mrs Lighty! We are new bloggers and just love being part of this crazy community. I (Louise) can relate to the fear associated by putting yourself ‘out there’ it’s a big deal! But such a boost of encouragement when you get positive feedback! We will now pop over and check out your blog xxx Sarah and Louise

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ah thank you! Yes it can be very scary but so enjoyable – I hope you’re finding this? Good luck with the blog, I’ll come check it out! 🙂

  21. jaxbest Reply

    First timer here. Looking forward to getting to know you and your blog! Checking it out as we speak.. Well… Type 🙂

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ah thank you! I’ll come check yours out too! Enjoy #coolmumclub, it’s the best linky! 😉

  22. Ami from My Mummy Spam Reply

    I love this!!! This is my first time linking up with the #coolmumclub not sure why but I didn’t seen it before! It already is one of my favs!! The posts are fab, hosts so supportive and love this post and Mrs Lightys stuff 🙂

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ah thank you, that’s so kind of you! It’s a fab linky, enjoy! 🙂

  23. nightwisprav3n Reply

    Welcome to the world of parenthood and your little one is adorable! Your blog sounds great and from reading the other comments, it looks like you have a lot of fans, which is always a good thing! Glad to meet you at #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ah thank you! If only that were true that I had lots of fans!! I’ll take the idea and run with it though!! 😉

  24. Becky Pink Reply

    Ah what a wonderful story, I think your description of a treasure trove for your baby to look back on is spot on, and the main reason I started blogging too. Love it! x #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      I hope that is what I’m creating for him. I always have that niggle that he’ll hate it or be embarrassed by it as he gets older, but hopefully not. Thanks for taking the time to read my post 🙂

  25. ljdove23 Reply

    What a fab post, I love following these and getting to know more about you all! Thanks for sharing, and hosting #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Thank you, I love this series too, it’s why I was so honoured to be featured 🙂

  26. babiesbiscuitsandbooze Reply

    Love this Nicola, great to read a bit more about you. Blogging and motherhood somehow fit, don’t they? I know exactly what you mean about writing too – I have always written things down and my poor ex was sent crazy on his gap year as I gave him a bag full of letters to take with him and was constantly emailing him. Letters are wonderful, I think I should send some. #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      I know, I keep thinking I should send some more too. My friend told me recently that she kept all the ones I sent her from Austria, which was lovely! Have you heard about The Paperdashery’s #MamaMail scheme?? You might like that if you fancy writing some letters 🙂

  27. This Mum's Life Reply

    It’s really interesting to hear about your blogging history…! I really love these stories, and I have loved every single one of your posts that I have read!! It’s crazy that we have started blogs at the busiest and most vulnerable time of our lives! But like you say, it’s such a supportive community, and such a great form of therapy I find!

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ah thank you, that’s very kind of you. I know, it’s crazy but it’s also a creative outlet isn’t it?? As long as I keep enjoying it, I think that’s the main thing.

  28. cherylbarry Reply

    Nicola, I haven’t read your blog yet but will check it out. I’ve got a feeling we may know each other through copywriting work (Sarah Mac?!) Good to find out more about you! #CoolMumClub X

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Yes!!! Thank you so much for sending me the message on Twitter, such a small world!! How did you realise it was me?! Xxx

  29. Katy (@hotpinkwellies) Reply

    Loved reading this and getting a better insight into why you started up your blog! I can relate to that slight cringe moment when someone says ‘I read your blog’ – even from my family! I’m hoping this will start to ease with time! #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Thank you! We saw friends today and as we spoke about this, that and the other they kept saying “oh yes I read about that on your blog”, cringe!!!!! 🙂

  30. tammymum Reply

    Oh I do like to read a story behind the blog feels like you get to know the blogger a little better. Really interesting read ☺️ #coolmumclub xx

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Thank you, I’m the same, which is why I love this series 🙂

  31. anxiousmummyblog Reply

    I so love learning more about why people started blogging. I have come across your blog through #coolmumclub and will pop over now and make myself a firm follower! I also hate when anyone mentions my blog in real life, it is such a major cringe moment. I don’t even really like discussing it with my husband and sometimes wish I had started an anonymous blog but it’s out there now! Jemma x

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Yes I often wonder why I didn’t do it anonymously, but then I probably wouldn’t have the same readership, ha!! I need to check out your blog as I too am an anxious mummy 🙂

  32. rightroyalmother Reply

    Really lovely reading stories about how people started blogging. I think mine started from sleep deprivation nuttiness – I had to have an outlet that wasn’t wittering on to my husband. Congratulations on your blog and good luck in the Grand National today! 🙂 #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Ha!! Let’s be honest, mine pretty much started from the same place, haha!! No luck in the Grand National today unfortunately!!

      1. rightroyalmother Reply

        Oh no – bad luck … sorry I’m late replying to this; lots of horse play at my house atm! xx

  33. Mess and merlot Reply

    I constantly get mixed up with blogs/bloggers so love reading these ‘get to know’ posts. I thought I hadn’t visited your blog before so popped over for a nosey and turns out I’ve read AND commented on your posts before Lovely to get to know you a bit better! #coolmumclub

    1. Mrs Lighty Reply

      Yes, you are one of my loyal readers, thank you so much for your support 🙂 I love your blog too, it’s so natural and always flows so well 🙂 xxx

      1. Mess and merlot Reply

        Thank you! That means a lot 🙂

  34. Mess and merlot Reply

    Aw thanks so much that really means a lot as I am not a ‘writer’ so have no idea how my posts come across

  35. mummyhereandthere Reply

    Interesting read and to learn of a new blogger. I too feel awkward talking about my blog in the real world X #coolmumclub

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