The Supermum Myth Book review & #Giveaway

Super Mum. Do you know her? Perhaps you’ve crossed paths with her once or twice, probably at a PTA meeting or whizzing past you on the school run in designer gym gear. Ironically, to someone else you may be perceived as Super Mum – juggling work and kids who always seem so well behaved, with plenty of time to yourself, and loads of help from your friends and family. Or conversely, blissfully a stay at home Mum, never missing a school performance or trip, always there at the classroom door and knowing everyone in the line, every school calendar date and all over each school notice.

Perhaps you aspire to be her, Super Mum. Trying your best to keep it all together on the surface like that swan, whilst you’re paddling like crazy underneath.

The fact of the matter is, it’s time to smash the Super Mum Myth. To realise that there is no such thing as a perfect Mum – even her, PTA queen with the school run wardrobe of a Kate Moss.

I got my hands on a copy of The Super Mum Myth as soon as it was published by Dr Rachel Andrew and Anya Hayes – a pilates teacher specialising in pregnancy and postnatal classes, a pregnancy, parenting and wellness writer, a blogger, and also, a Mum. I got to know Anya through some pretty remarkable ladies who let me into their gang on Instagram, and who continue to inspire me daily with their humour, their strength, their honesty and their passion.

I’ve been reading the book for a few months now, and felt compelled to share with you exactly why you should own a copy of your own.

I should start by saying that for me The Super Mum Myth, for me, isn’t a book to wind down to in bed after a day grafting it as an imperfect Mum. Well, unless you need a little pep talk on your parenting that day, that is. I’ve reserved my bedside table for a spot of Jo Jo Moyes, and tend to refer to The Super Mum Myth as a daytime read, a self help book if you like for parenting lows, and a general bible on how to celebrate yourself as a Mother.

It is however funny, warm, reassuring and light hearted – whilst touching on some pretty heavy subjects such as birth trauma, postnatal health, identity issues, relationships, school politics, teenagers, career and wellbeing.  The tone of the book is somewhat like a warm hug from a friend, telling you are doing a fantastic job, and exactly what every cream crackered Mum needs to hear.

The book’s narrative encourages you to let go of the mothering ideal we have been exposed to in the media – to stop pining to be Super Mum. It includes excerpts from real mothers throughout, opening up about how they have felt in various scenarios, allowing you as the reader to realise that it’s okay to feel not okay – and plenty of other Mums aren’t relishing every element of the role of being in charge of keeping humans alive. You’ll laugh, nod along and recognise yourself in some of (plenty of) the anecdotes.

Aside from its ‘we’re all in it together’ vibe, The Super Mum Myth also contains a series of activities to actually carry out yourself, in order to work through some of your thought processes and reflect on why your mindset might not at it’s optimum. Through the interaction with the authors in these practical exercises, they can actually help you feel better about yourself. For example, by thinking back on past events such as your pregnancy journey, your labour, you might address some of the trauma you experienced, and acknowledge it as a triumph, allowing you to partly move on from it. Other activities prompt you to consider some of the positive elements of your motherhood journey, or to reflect on how you imagined life would be, recognising your perhaps unachievable expectations, and let them go.

Visualisation techniques, breathing exercises, mindfulness tasks, positivity exercises and thought logs are just some of the tasks the book walks you through – all are easy to carry out, and allow you to really think about the things that maybe you have been beating yourself up about.

The Super Mum Myth has so much information and advice to improve any Mums mental wellbeing, but there were two concepts which have really stuck with me so far (and I know I’ll be referring to this book for years to come).

The first was about negativity within your relationship – that interactions between couples should be 5:1 Positive to negative. Certainly something we have been underperforming in lately. Noted.

The second was the concept of postnatal depletion – a phrase I had never heard before, which describes that feeling in the years after becoming a Mum; of never really NOT feeling exhausted. Your every ounce of energy is used up in caring for someone else, leaving you feeling with little left for anyone else, or least of all yourself. Overwhelm, lack of sparkle, hyper vigilance…sound familiar?

I’ve already bought two friends copies of this book, encouraged many others to do the same, and I think this book is frankly something which should be handed out to new Mums in their bounty packs.

With so much reassurance, practical advice and the tools to help you find peace with your parenting style, The Super Mum Myth is well worth a read, and a deserving title to sit amongst the top sellers of parenting books for 2018.

You deserve a copy.

x MMT

Together with Anya, I’m offering one of you the chance to win a copy of The Supermum Myth. The giveaway runs until  January 2018, and this could be the perfect way to grab hold of the new year with both hands….leaving that Supermum Myth in the past where it belongs.

You can enter via the rafflecopter on my GIVEAWAYS page HERE 

Good luck!

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17 thoughts on “The Supermum Myth Book review & #Giveaway

  1. Leila Benhamida Reply

    Motherhood is a learning process and should be embraced. In my eyes we are all supermums in our own way as we all see the world differently. Sound like a interesting book. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Margaret GALLAGHER Reply

    Everyone has their own journeys -would love this beauty for my neice to see that there are milestones to reach but every mum is super

  3. Nicole Reply

    Wow, these sort of books should REALLY be in the bounty packs! Much more helpful than guides on parenting!!!
    I’d love to read this – have entered the competition too. Thanks for sharing this Sarah xo
    #coolmumclub

  4. Donna (@bobsysmum) Reply

    Sounds like my kinda book! #Coolmumclub

  5. beautybabyandme Reply

    I am in dire need of this book especially with baby number two fast approaching! It sounds great xx #coolmumclub

  6. mammaprada Reply

    This is such an amazing book! Like many others of Anya’s. She always has such incredible words of wisdom that give you an inner contentment. #Coolmumclub

  7. ettieandme Reply

    What an amazing book! Thankyou so much for sharing! I have a friend who will really appreciate this so I know what Santa is bringing her #coolmumclub

  8. Talya Reply

    I love the sound of this book so much – I need this in my life!! Think it should be standard issue for every #coolmumclub mum! Xxx

  9. oldhouseintheshires Reply

    Entered! Would. Love this book…it sounds just my kind of read. Postnatal depletion….ummmmm I like the sound of that and so true! #coolmumclub

  10. Lucy At Home Reply

    This sounds like a book I need in my life! I think I might be adding it to my Christmas list (and entering the giveaway too, obvs!) and the PostNatal Depletion sounds oh-so-familar…! I’ll be checking this out – thanks for the recommendation #coolmumclub

  11. Rice Cakes and Raisins Reply

    This sounds really interesting, I’d love to check this book out! #coolmumclub

  12. mummyhereandthere Reply

    I have never heard of this book but there so many myths regarding motherhood that need to be stamped out pronto! X #coolmumclub

  13. thesingleswan Reply

    These are the books that you should buy your friends when they tell you that they are pregnant for the first time. So many of us fall victim to the mum myth. Pen x #coolmumclub

  14. Jodie A Green Reply

    this sounds great! entered thank you!

  15. talkingmums1 Reply

    This sounds like a fab book, entered the comp 🙂 hope I win! x
    #coolmumclub

  16. Mrs Mummy Harris Reply

    This sounds like a book that most mums need! I hate the stepford wife style of perfection… so what if little man has been in his pjs all day – is he fed? yes… happy? yes… i might even post something online about it depending on how still he sits hahahaha!!! #coolmumclub

  17. Musings of a tired mummy...zzz... Reply

    The idea of postnatal depletion really is easy to relate to! I will head over to the giveaway now! #coolmumclub

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