Blogging as therapy

It’s something I read time and time again in various blog posts – how the cathartic process of writing about your problems can actually make them a little less heavy in your shoulders.

So I’m going to give this a try. Life as as a stay at home Mum can be idyllic, sometimes, but there is definitely a dark cloud that’s been hanging around for far too long, casting a shadow on the sunshine and rainbows of my days.

I’ve tried too many times to ignore it, but it just gets worse. In fact, it gets bigger and bigger, and I know it’s getting to the point I can’t carry it around with me anymore.

After all, closing the door on something isn’t going to deal with it – it’s just there, lingering until someone opens that door once more, exposing the mountain that’s been building and weighing heavily on my mind. I know I’m probably not alone here – I think many of you will share this same exact issue, and understand. I’m hoping that together we can rise above it and make it go away permanently…although I’m not even sure that’s possible.

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I’ve had this issue since I left home at eighteen, and whilst I managed for a long time, it got worse when my husband moved in, and each new child sent it spiralling out of control for a while. In all honesty, now as a family of four, it’s the worst it’s ever been. It never really goes away – I can sometimes forget about it for a matter of hours or so, but then it’ll hit me in the face, often at the end of the day when it just can’t be contained any more. It’s a constant background noise to my life – the whirring around and around never seeming to stop. I look back at my own Mother and wonder how she coped, knowing now in hindsight that she was inflicted with the same burden.

I’ve spoken to my husband about it, but he doesn’t seem to understand the scale of the problem. My children are blissfully unaware and the only person who seems to understand is my support network of Mums. But they can’t help, they have their own battles to fight.

So if blogging is therapy, and talking about a problem helps it to disappear, then it’s worth a try…

Or maybe I just need to outsource my laundry.

Guess that’s my afternoon sorted… 😔 #mumproblems

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The sad truth about today’s nap time… #laundrynotblogging

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Just pairing up a few black socks… #sahm #laughingatmyownjokes #pbloggers #mbloggers #laundry #socks #widn

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27 thoughts on “Blogging as therapy

  1. Nicole Reply

    If there are kids, there will be laundry. Lots of it. Law of Nature:(

  2. franbackwithabump Reply

    Blogging is a great way of offloading and helped me loads on my old blog. Thanks for hosting #coolmumclub x

  3. Amanda Blackburn Reply

    This is why I started blogging last year. I met a friend on a school mums night out. We got on so well, it was like we had known each other forever. Ww continued our friendship and I opened up to her about my home, family stress. She advised me to write about it and to blog. I already knew a bit about blogging as my daughter was obsessed with Zoella. Zoella had helped my daughter with her anxieties and cheered her up when she was diagnosed with her Crohn’s disease. So we my friends help I got started and I am totally hooked now. It helps me through the bad days and gives me something to take my mind off the worry of my daughter. I have been talking to some other Bloggers’s that I hope to meet a blog on. Its been tough to learn as I am no spring chicken with the internet but has challenged me and I am proud of what I can now do, ( still a long way to go lol).
    So glad it helps you too!
    Great post!
    # coolmumclub

  4. Life Love and Dirty Dishes Reply

    I hope you feel better for offloading. I have the same problem. My husband tries to help but the boys clothes end up in the wrong wardrobes. They are 2 and 7, thee’s quite a size difference! And don’t get me started on socks! Thanks for hosting #CoolMumsClub

  5. beautybabyandme Reply

    You’re a genius! What does the bottom of the laundry bin even look like?! xx #coolmumclub

  6. Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love) Reply

    Oh if only sharing the problem made it go away! I keep hoping that one day the laundry fairy will pay me a visit and it will magically get some! #coolmumclub

  7. PassTheProseccoPlease Reply

    Laundry sucks big hairy balls… I’ve never been very good at it, I don’t think I ever will.
    Well until I remarry a millionaire and hire someone to do it for me. #coolmumclub

  8. and Jacob makes three Reply

    It’s definitely worth a go! A problem shared and all that… I think blogging helps because you can see you aren’t alone #coolmumclub

  9. Donna Reply

    Blogging is definitely therapy! Don’t know how I managed with out it! #coolmumclub

  10. motherhoodtherealdeal Reply

    Bloody laundry. I swear our machine is never empty and we only have one. Let it all out #coolmumclub sista xoxo

  11. Tubbs Reply

    Rev T does ours. I can ask him what his daily rate would be?! (The sock photo is inspired!)

  12. justsayingmum Reply

    Oh my goodness those pictures almost make me twitch! I hear you lovely, I really do. Just takes over my life. Funnily enough, my husband asked this morning what I was doing today and my answer was ‘washing’ – what has my life become? Could it be any duller?! Hope this process helped lovely! #CoolMumClub

  13. Laura Beresford Reply

    Cathartic is the word, I think. When you are home alone with a little one, you need someone else to talk to and let off steam! #coolmumclub

  14. tinmccarthy Reply

    It exercises my brain- which Peppa is trying to turn to mush

  15. alisonlonghurst Reply

    I love your last photo! Make loads of money from blogging and pay someone else to wash your clothes 🙂 Therapy and outsourcing – win, win! Alison x #coolmumclub

  16. Something About Baby Reply

    Whoever invented laundry has a lot to answer for. I struggle with just the three of us, I literally have no idea how my mum coped with 6 kids and 2 adults in the house – especially when she had 4 under 5 at one point! She now only has 2 to do laundry for, so I might outsource mine to her, seen as how she’s so talented at it… #coolmumclub

  17. Mum in Brum Reply

    Ha! You had me there…the laundry literally takes over my house (and mind) and no, the husband will never understand how much time it takes to wash it, dry it, fold it and put it away neatly. I’ve started to secretly put things back that I don’t think need wearing after one wash lol. I really don’t know how I’m going to cope with a second set of kids’ clothes…it’s so bloody tedious and completely unfulfilling. One day when I grow up I dream of having a cleaner and outsourcing my laundry. My life will be complete. x #coolmumclub

  18. Lucy At Home Reply

    Haha did it work??? I might follow your lead and share my laundry too! #coolmumclub

  19. tootingmama Reply

    Too right is therapy. I’ve been a SAHM since moving to France some day it’s utter joy some days I’m just bogged down with the mundanity of life. SAHM is a SAHM where ever you live! #coolmumclub

  20. rockandrosesmama Reply

    Haha love it… thankfully my man does help a little with laundry which is great… I find it easier when the sun is out as I can fit way more on the line instead of an airer and it dries so much quicker so I can turnaround more loads in a shorter space of time! <3 #coolmumclub

  21. Susie / S.H.I.T. Reply

    OMG this is hilarious – I, too, suffer from a huge affliction and constantly heavy cloud of never ending laundry. The worst worst worst part for me is putting it all away – I HATE it! when I know it’s mounted up and there are Everest high peaks up in the kids’ rooms of clothes to be put away, it makes me want to curl up in a ball in a dark room and weep, rocking backward and forwards. So glad you felt you could talk about it on your blog – hope it helped. I think I feel the need to as well. #coolmumclub

  22. Alana - Burnished Chaos Reply

    Ha ha, blogging is definitely fantastic therapy. Not sure it works on laundry though or every mother in the country would be at it. How on earth people cope with more than two kids I’ll never know!

  23. mumandstuff Reply

    I’m probably gonna really annoy you now but I simply ignore my problem, I have other stuff to do. Amazingly it works. My husband regularly comes home from work and deals with the mountain that has developed from a mole hill. It started because he woke up one day and no clean pants… Voila! It’s kind of become his thing. I can strongly advocate IGNORING IT. Eventually someone else will be forced to deal with it & before you know it, it just happens!!

  24. Helen Reply

    Therapeutic as it is blogging, I find faaaaar more satisfaction in an empty basket! Haha. Never. Ending. Good luck!! #outsourceit #coolmunclub

  25. Helena Reply

    Oh yes I can relate. Blogging is pure escapism.#coolmumclub

  26. Jo (Mother of Teenagers) Reply

    Anyone who has spent even the smallest period as a SAHM will completely empathise. There were days at the beginning when I truly felt I had been incarcerated and there are still those days (although admittedly they are less) but there is no bigger reminder of the SHIT JOB than sorting out the pants and the socks. OMG I am so with you. In fact last night I tipped my husband’s yet to be washed dirty socks on the sofa and said politely (ish) not only do I have to match your socks after washing but you now expect me to unfurl them too for you before I put them in the machine!! That is just a step too far! Think of me next time you face a pile of socks! #coolmumclub

  27. Silly Mummy Reply

    Haha! Oh that we could blog away the laundry! #coolmumclub

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