I sometimes wonder how social media has shaped the person I am – the clothes I wear, the places I go and the opinions I form. As access to other people’s lives has never been easier, there is no doubt that thanks to social media, I have been lured into a certain trend or product, or even lifestyle choice that I’d have otherwise been oblivious to.
I sit here wearing a loud bright yellow cardigan, that I’d have honestly thought was hideous a couple of years ago, had I perhaps not fallen a little in love with the bright colours on my instagram feed.
Much like the pink lipstick, that I now own, having never worn lipstick my entire adult life. Also, the nail varnish that I have finally taught myself to paint, after believing my whole life that I ‘can’t do nails’.
Or the leopard prints that are taking over my wardrobe– from the branded scamp and dude sweat to the Tesco glitter pumps, and even a Pat Butcher esque leopard fur coat (which my Mum politely but undoubtedly said made me look like a prostitute ). And the floral Nike Air Max, my absolute faves – the same ones which I laughed out loud when my hubby picked them up while we were out shopping, just six months ago.
It’s not just fashion choices either. I’ve been swayed into believing I could look after a dog, having fallen in love with so many #DogsOfInstagram, thankfully pulled back to sanity by the reminder we already deal with enough poo talk in our house. Plus, we’d never be here for the poor thing. No, that was one dream that got popped straight back in the clouds.
I’ve certainly found inspiration to get back out for a run thanks to the shared feeds of people I follow – not follow out running, just to be clear, that would be weird. A healthier lifestyle is certainly something we could all be encouraged to achieve, and so by tapping into some super fit folk out there, it can be a huge drive to do as they do, and see the results.
Talking of body loving, one of my favourite topics to be showered by on social media is self love and positivity. There are so many people embracing all the joy in life, and loving onesself it’s hard for it not to rub off. Celebrating curves, smashing the myth that skinny is happy, and encouraging you to do the things that make you feel great – even if that is just one day a week.
It’s not just physical health either – I’ve found some amazing mental positivity, acceptance of the bad days and found new ways to overcome overwhelm, thanks to the many mindfulness and wellness coaches I’ve tapped in to online.
There is an uprising of women supporting women, lifting each other up and celebrating each other’s successes – a refreshing and warm approach to those around you. We encourage each other to be happy, to be proud of our achievements, and offer support when it’s needed in dark times. To try something new, or to be accepting that it’s okay to do very little sometimes too.
Power in numbers has tackled issues such as cervical cancer screening, breast health, and raised awareness and hard cash for many deserving charities.
I follow some pretty inspirational, strong females on social media, as well as some humble and quiet feminists who share my passions for what is right; breaking down barriers in preconceptions of motherhood norms. There is no doubt my subconscious political views have risen to the surface as a result of them being in the background of my daily life.
I also have a right old laugh along with the likes of Celeste Barber and The Scummy Mummies. They influence my day in the best possible way – in the form of smiles and fun.
There is no doubt that reading stories of survival and bravery in others blogs, that I have felt a surge of gratitude and thanks for the life I have. For the daughters I cherish and the privilege it is to be here for them. I’ve found a passion for writing and supporting flexible working for parents, as well as other charities and movements that I may never have stumbled over if it weren’t for the power of the words on the screen.
So whilst having a social media presence is so often defined as being an influencer, we really are all being influenced in every sense of the word too. Often in some fabulously positive ways, not always just lusting after leopard print gear. (Just some of the time).