I sometimes wonder how social media has shaped the person I am – the clothes I wear, the places I go and the opinions I form. As access to other people’s lives has never been easier, there is no doubt that thanks to social media, I have been lured into a certain trend or product, or even lifestyle choice that I’d have otherwise been oblivious to.

I sit here wearing a loud bright yellow cardigan, that I’d have honestly thought was hideous a couple of years ago, had I perhaps not fallen a little in love with the bright colours on my instagram feed.

Much like the pink lipstick, that I now own, having never worn lipstick my entire adult life. Also, the nail varnish that I have finally taught myself to paint, after believing my whole life that I ‘can’t do nails’.

Or the leopard prints that are taking over my wardrobe– from the branded scamp and dude sweat to the Tesco glitter pumps, and even a Pat Butcher esque leopard fur coat (which my Mum politely but undoubtedly said made me look like a prostitute ). And the floral Nike Air Max, my absolute faves – the same ones which I laughed out loud when my hubby picked them up while we were out shopping, just six months ago.

It’s not just fashion choices either. I’ve been swayed into believing I could look after a dog, having fallen in love with so many #DogsOfInstagram, thankfully pulled back to sanity by the reminder we already deal with enough poo talk in our house. Plus, we’d never be here for the poor thing. No, that was one dream that got popped straight back in the clouds.

I’ve certainly found inspiration to get back out for a run thanks to the shared feeds of people I follow – not follow out running, just to be clear, that would be weird. A healthier lifestyle is certainly something we could all be encouraged to achieve, and so by tapping into some super fit folk out there, it can be a huge drive to do as they do, and see the results.

Talking of body loving, one of my favourite topics to be showered by on social media is self love and positivity. There are so many people embracing all the joy in life, and loving onesself it’s hard for it not to rub off. Celebrating curves, smashing the myth that skinny is happy, and encouraging you to do the things that make you feel great – even if that is just one day a week.

It’s not just physical health either – I’ve found some amazing mental positivity, acceptance of the bad days and found new ways to overcome overwhelm, thanks to the many mindfulness and wellness coaches I’ve tapped in to online.

There is an uprising of women supporting women, lifting each other up and celebrating each other’s successes – a refreshing and warm approach to those around you. We encourage each other to be happy, to be proud of our achievements, and offer support when it’s needed in dark times. To try something new, or to be accepting that it’s okay to do very little sometimes too.

Power in numbers has tackled issues such as cervical cancer screening, breast health, and raised awareness and hard cash for many deserving charities.

I follow some pretty inspirational, strong females on social media, as well as some humble and quiet feminists who share my passions for what is right; breaking down barriers in preconceptions of motherhood norms. There is no doubt my subconscious political views have risen to the surface as a result of them being in the background of my daily life.

I also have a right old laugh along with the likes of Celeste Barber and The Scummy Mummies. They influence my day in the best possible way – in the form of smiles and fun.

There is no doubt that reading stories of survival and bravery in others blogs, that I have felt a surge of gratitude and thanks for the life I have. For the daughters I cherish and the privilege it is to be here for them. I’ve found a passion for writing and supporting flexible working for parents, as well as other charities and movements that I may never have stumbled over if it weren’t for the power of the words on the screen.

So whilst having a social media presence is so often defined as being an influencer, we really are all being influenced in every sense of the word too. Often in some fabulously positive ways, not always just lusting after leopard print gear. (Just some of the time).



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21 thoughts on “Influenced

  1. Tales From Mamaville (@MamavilleTales) Reply

    Ooooh I LOVE leopard prints too, way before they were a craze;)
    Though on a more serious (and less prostitute-y note), this is such a lovely post. And so true. Social media, like everything else, has its pros and cons, and while it can be a complete invasion of privacy, it can also be a window to the world, a modern-day letter to your loved ones living far away and so much more. It’s all about the balance…

  2. Mrs Lighty Reply

    Yes! Agree with this! It’s a funny old world isn’t it? I don’t think I openly notice that I’m being influenced either, but you’ve got me thinking now! Thanks for hosting #coolmumclub xxx

  3. pamsbakeandbabyblog Reply

    I’m really easily influenced! I wear things I would never have considered, read books I might never have picked up and try recipes I wouldn’t have eaten otherwise. It’s great in so many ways and your right there are pros and cons. Great post #coolmumclub

  4. Pen Reply

    Social media, blogs and the internet more broadly have enable me to connect to new ppl and to new ideas. Like you, I read a lot of feminist style blogs and columns but it is not the hardcore academic feminism that I studied at university but rather the more relatable ‘how should I live my life type’. This for me has been the biggest influence.

    I have been influenced into buying things recommended by fellow bloggers though. My wardrobe certainly hasn’t been immune to the impact of social media.

    Pen x #coolmumclub

  5. Jenny Curtis Reply

    Social media can be such a mixed bag, I find some of it (like snapchat) a bit baffling and other things like twitter I love for keeping up with news and sport. Pinterest is just fantastic for ideas for food/ decor/ crafts. It just all opens up so many possibilities that would never be there otherwise. Great post, thank you! #coolmumclub

  6. Kate@TheMumConundrum Reply

    You make a really good point here, I hadn’t really thought about the extent to which I must be influenced in the same ways. Ace post xxx #coolmumclub

  7. Claire - Life, Love and Dirty Dishes Reply

    I am definately influenced. I like to think it broadens my horizons and opens me up to new ideas. Which has to be a good think. If I see negativity online I just try to scroll on by.

  8. mummyhereandthere Reply

    Like everything life there is good and bad in it. I just try to be cautious as one picture is a little snippet of that person’s life X #coolmumclub

  9. RainbowsR2Beautiful (@rainbowsaretoo) Reply

    Sometimes you find it’s the things that slowly seep in that really matters and can change who you are… for the better maybe? I love the way people can be empowered by social media and tribes but are sometimes sadden by the misfortune of others that are ridiculed. Lovely to read your thoughts #coolmumclub

  10. Tubbs Reply

    So true. It’s easy to forget that social media can influence you for good when you’ve come across another story about fake news …

  11. Cheryl @ Tea or Wine Reply

    Consciously or subconsciously I think we’re all being influenced by social media. But thanks for putting such a positive spin on it. There’s quite a lot out there about why social media is bad for us, but this just shows how it can be a good thing. It’s funny when you think about it, how much it affects, like you said from clothes to books you read, to opinions formed! Thanks for hosting #CoolMumClub xx

  12. motherhoodtherealdeal Reply

    I think we are all influencing and being influenced all the time whoever we are and sometimes that can be for the best! Sending #coolmumclub Feb vibes xoxo

  13. Morgan Prince Reply

    I read another article about “influencers” recently that had a totally opposite opinion and it made me feel a little sad. Thank you so much for restoring my faith in the work I do but also in the power of real people. 🙂

  14. viewfromthebeachchair Reply

    I often wonder what is behind the “perfect” social posts. I will be real. My life is not perfect. Do I want the perfect looking children with the handsome husband in a perfectly clean car. Sure…but it would last all of five seconds! Real life is messy. I am thankful for social media to keep me in tune with what is cool. Do I miss my 80’s hair. Sure! Do I want to fit in…sure. But not to the point of loosing who I am. On a side note I do like the sweater. Mustard is not my first choice but makes me want to try it with a black backing. Well done you! #coolmumclub

  15. Eva Reply

    Very true, I am noticing I’m being influenced by the things I see on social media, but it’s not a bad thing, I think about it in way of discovering new and interesting things. When I think about myself being an influencer I always try to stay in my niche, and most of my reviews and collars are with brands which ethos are resonating with mines. #coolmumsclub

  16. Becky | Bringing Up The Berneys Reply

    Social media has definitely influenced me on many things! I‘ve yet to be influenced into being more active haha, but I’m with you on the dog dream, as much as I’d love one – there’s too much poo in our house too right now! #coolmumclub

  17. beautybabyandme Reply

    Great post as always – you’re so right we are influenced from all angles without even realising it sometimes. xx #coolmumclub

  18. MotherAlmostNeverKnowsBest Reply

    Love Celeste Barber! Good post. We should stop lambasting ourselves for enjoyment of social media. It’s not always evil! #coolmumclub

  19. Wendy Reply

    I am definitely influenced by social media, not so much the clothes I buy but the places I want to visit and the things I want to do. I also feel most motivated to do exercise/eat well after I’ve been looking at Instagram accounts of really fit and healthy people xx #coolmumclub

  20. Musings of a tired mummy...zzz... Reply

    I love social media for the connections with other people and yes they will influence me but hopefully have a positive impact on my life. #coolmumclub

  21. crummymummy1 Reply

    I definitely know what you mean here – but if it wasn’t social media influencing us it would be something else wouldn’t it?! #coolmumclub

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