Disillusioned moments of blogging

Taking up blogging as an accidental career has had it’s fair share of highs over the last few years, but in the interest of balance, it’s fair to say it’s thrown up the occasional wobble moment too.

Despite trying to convince myself this is the job of dreams, and celebrating the success of my own making, sometimes, blogging has a way of trying to take you down.

I really hate to be all negative about something I’m passionate about, but here are a few moments when I’ve stopped to question what this blogging malarkey is really all about…

I laugh in the face of bloggers

If you’re a blogger, and you have ever literally had someone laugh in your face at your choice of career / hobby / creative outlet / whatever you wanna call it, then you’ll feel my pain. There’s nothing that can give rise to feelings of self doubt quite like being publicly mocked for your life choices. Yes, it’s happened to me. No, it did not feel nice.

I’d love to write for your site, for FREE!

Oh the hours I have wasted replying politely to decline what appears to be to the SAME PERSON again and again offering to write amazing articles for me on a totally random subject, and for free! There are not enough hours in the day as it is and this is one element of blogging which makes me die inside.

Fan Girl

I was emailed by someone who wanted to thank me for my words which had helped her so much through her struggles with motherhood. As she gushed over how my honesty was commendable I really thought maybe I’d made it as a blogger. Thanking her for her kind words, I quipped ‘was she sure she had the right blogger?!’. How I laughed when she emailed me six hours later, apologising that she had in fact e mailed the wrong blogger. #WhyWoulYouAdmitToThat

All the stuff

There was a time when I would have killed to review something, anything through my blog. I squealed the first time I was sent anything, and loo cleaner it may have been, but it was a milestone moment. Three years on, and despite not wanting to sound ungrateful for the endless emails offering toys to review, but we are rapidly drowning in ALL OF THE TOYS. Sadly gifts for review don’t put food on the table. Unless the review involved food to put on the table that is. Still, I’m a sucker for things my girls would love as much as the next Mum, and sometimes it’s too good an offer to say no.

Cinderella shall go to the ball

In a similar notion, as much as I wish I had all the time in the world to commute into central London for champagne lunches, drive the width of Kent from Tunbridge Wells to Canterbury to visit new restaurants, or see new ranges of products, the reality is that this involves childcare, transport costs and a day of my time. It makes me kind of sad that so many event invitations don’t acknowledge any sort of payment for at very least covering expenses, let alone paying a blogger for their time and audience reach. Look, I know I’m no Vicki Psarias, but isn’t it time brands realised and respected the value in bloggers? Again, once the novelty factor wears off, sometimes attending events can be less glamorous than you’d dreamt about.

Monday blues

When the creative writing side of blogging becomes shoved out of the way by the business side of blogging, like any job, it’s fair to say the fun can be a little bit sucked out of it. When you want to write about body positivity or your experiences as a Mum, or a new book you are buzzing to talk about, but you agreed to review a dozen products which are all queuing up to be photographed, written, edited, published and promoted, you can start to feel a bit like you lost your way. Of course there was a time when I only dreamt of getting something back from the hours spent crafting and writing a blog, but that’s not to say it doesn’t come at a price. There are only so many hours in the day and when it’s all piling up you can wonder if this what it’s really about after all.

Blogger FOMO

I know, I know…comparison is the thief of joy, but in a highly visible world of blogging it’s REALLY hard not to compare yourself to others in your field. To see the brands other bloggers are working with, the places they’re going, the book deals, the freebies, the numbers and of course, the social circles. It can be really hard to remain focused on your own end game, objectives and ethics but the fomo can be a little disheartening if you let it get to you. I blame instagram stories.

 

Ultimately, there is still so much more I love about blogging than dislike about it, and it continues to be something that adds a dimension to my Mum life that gives more than it takes from our family. I just needed to get these things off my chest – other bloggers, what elements of blogging can get you down?

Hey ho, these things are sent to try us, right?!

x MMT

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24 thoughts on “Disillusioned moments of blogging

  1. Claire - Life, Love and Dirty Dishes Reply

    Totally get this Sarah. And with social media making it harder to be seen ot can often feel like an uphill struggle.

  2. Mrs Jibril Reply

    I can relate to someone requesting to write for my blog for free I must admit I was flattered at the start lol

  3. Nicola wiggins Reply

    This is so relatable. Totally feeling you on the reviews. Bloggers still don’t get any kudos and are treated like rubbish. #coolmumclub

  4. thisscribblermum Reply

    A good insight. Just goes to show no matter what job or career we choose, there will always be pros and cons. #coolmumclub

  5. Helen (Cooking with my kids) Reply

    There are a lot of downsides to blogging and you’ve really summed a lot up here, but hopefully the pros outweigh the cons. #coolmumclub

  6. Tubbs Reply

    Totally relate. Sometimes it can get really frustrating … Bloggers are very good at telling each other what to do but honestly, you blog you and let others do the same.

  7. Kim Reply

    Yes definitely relate to this. Blogging takes up a lot of time and energy.

  8. Sons Over the Yardarm Reply

    I can relate to some of this. I’m too new to blogging for some of it, and it’s not my career (thank Christ or we’d be starving) but it’s amazing to read that people expect so much for nothing! If they value you enough to ask for reviews, content etc. then they should treat it for the skill it is and act accordingly. My main disillusionment is whether the whole thing is a massive exercise in self-indulgence and I should be putting the time into my actual job (or, dare I think it, dealig with my kids?!) #CoolMumClub.

  9. Martina Reply

    Gosh! I hope to one day be drowning under toys and stuff to review. Although, looking at the state of my loos, perhaps a loo cleaner might be more useful! A great post, thanks. #coolmumclub

  10. motherhoodtherealdeal Reply

    Oh yes when people literally laugh at what you do – more fool them don’t they know we are in fact ahead of the influencer curve which will literally be ruling the world in ten years time! But seriously, I know every word of this to be true, keeping it real my #coolmumclub co-hosty xoxo

  11. viewfromthebeachchair Reply

    Yes to all of these. I was looking to review anything! But then became selective as why would I do a blog post, facebook post, instagram etc for an item that cost $5. My time is worth more than that! #coolmumclub

  12. crummymummy1 Reply

    I guess in the grand scheme of things blogging is like any other job: there are good points & bad points. Yes to all of these in my experience! #coolmumclub

  13. mummyhereandthere Reply

    I can relate to dome of this however I don’t do it as a job, I wish but can imagine it has its pro and cons like anything else. X #coolmumclub

  14. Moonsomnia Reply

    I am completely relating to everything you have said, the pressure to read every bloggers blog and keep up and make sure I am not neglecting anyone and reply to every tweet etc, those are things that stress me out. I have given up Instagram entirely but Twitter is something I can and never will part with 😛

    Shevy
    http://moonsomnia.com
    #coolmumclub

  15. JakiJellz Reply

    It’s always so refreshing to read posts like these because it makes you realise that we all feel the same at one point and that we are completely normal. So, thank you. I now know I am feeling just like others at times! #coolmumclub

  16. oldhouseintheshires Reply

    Oh Sarah, I know what you mean. I had a wobble a few weeks ago and I just stopped for a bit. I still had a couple of posts that had to go out but I didn’t write anything for over a week and took 2 weeks off from linkies and blog stuff. It was blissful. It made me realise that blogging had made me lazy! And just a bit fat!! I work as a teacher so blogging is in my spare time. I think balance is key. Switch off and enjoy the down time. I can imagine blogging full time doesn’t allow you to do that too often. I love your blog so keep going! I have also really enjoyed finding you on Instagram. Take care, #coolmumclub

  17. Charlotte Stein Reply

    As a year old blogger I’m starting to feel some of these strains. Freebies with a budget would be very welcome that’s for sure! I definitely get fomo but mostly more on YT than blogging. I also hate when people think they can negatively discuss your profession. I have had this with all my previous occupations as a recruitment consultant and a childminder which attract the same sort of criticism, so now I’m a blogger it’s obviously a triple whammy for me to receive criticism

  18. sarahsurreymama Reply

    I totally relate to all of this! For me I think the downsides of this as a job is that it’s always on, there is never a holiday or a break is there and it’s hard to switch off. It can be really hard at times. #coolmumclub

  19. thesingleswan Reply

    I can relate, particularly to the emails from people offering to write for me for free. I like to politely reply saying that the best thing about blogging is the writing… unless it’s the same email again and again and again. Pen x #coolmumclub

  20. nightwisprav3n Reply

    That’s why I don’t do reviews. It takes up way too much of my already limited time and I blog for creativity and because I have something to say. If I don’t get paid, then I don’t get paid. I did start to do reviews in the beginning but no one wanted to pay me. Then getting those people who wanted to write on my site and also not pay me, so not worth my time. That is the downside to blogging though and we have to take the bad with the good I guess. #CoolMumClub

  21. Kate on thin ice (@kateonthinice) Reply

    Nodded along with so much of this post. I miss the days when I was an anonymous blogger just writing because my late Mum thought it might help cheer me up whilst I was in the grip of post-natal depression. Started never expecting anyone to read me to be honest and now it is a business and that just happened quite organically. The trouble is once you inject wishes to make money, you give up quite a lot of the freedom of the old days of blogging. Your fan girl one made me chuckle. I am sure so many bloggers will empathise with this post or at least parts of it #CoolMumClub

  22. Nicola Reply

    It certainly is a tough gig! Particularly the FOMO! I only blog part time and I get a fair few products to review and the odd sponsored post but when I see families off on all expenses paid holidays it does make me wonder where I’m going wrong! #coolmumclub

  23. The Queen of Collage Reply

    I can relate to some of this. #CoolMumClub

  24. pocketsfullofdaisies Reply

    I can totally relate to this! Great post 🙂

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