Nurture or Nature? The love of Pink that is. I’m pretty sure in our case it wasn’t nurture, so I guess it must be some female predisposition to the alluring shades of coral, fuschia, and, in particular, baby pink.
We didn’t know we were expecting a girl, so our nursery was decorated a very gender non specific cream, with a jungle mural. If anything, it was a little ‘boyish’, but that was fine with us. I’m not really a pink girl myself, so the nursery was never going to be pink, or come to think of it, blue either.
When she arrived, we were showered with beautiful gifts, flowers and cards. I did find it quite funny how much pink was taking over her wardrobes. We still tended to lean towards the neutral coloured babygrows we had bought. I think I did go and buy a set of ‘girly’ ones, but they were reds, greens and lilacs, botanical prints and floral patterns.
We got used to people thinking ‘she’ was a ‘he’. Especially once the babygrow stage had passed. Tiny jeans, converse trainers, and t shirts were just too tempting to dress up our little mini me in. Named after a plant, she also suffered with being dressed mostly in green. I say suffered…it’s my favourite colour, but I think the early pushing of the colour of slime may have a lot to answer for.
Baby shoes were always a problem for me. I’m all for a well fitted solid walking shoe, but come on Clarks, your girls section is pretty slim pickings if you don’t love pink. I must have searched every kids shoe shop in my area, only to find most shops that stock fitted kids shoes, sell Clarks. Definitely a gap in the market for girls shoes which don’t look like ‘special shoes’. But the boys ones? So cute. Sorry little one, maybe that was a tad mean, but the boys chelsea boots were just so adorable with your little checked dresses or jeggins. I think you had a pair in every size, to date.
I don’t actually remember when you started enforcing a little backlash? Maybe last summer, age 2? We have a good friend who kindly donates us a bag or two of (gorgeous) outgrown clothes of her daughters every 6 months or so. And her little girl loves loves loves anything pink, flowery and girly. And so it began.
It serves me right really, doesn’t it?
Somewhere in between here, and there, she has become a glitter loving, Disney princess, who idolises anything flowery, feminine, and pastel pink. We have a wardrobe filled with amazing clothes, untouched, in pristine condition; rejected by their lack of peach, salmon, bubblegum pink tones. If its floral or floaty, it may get a look in. Shorts, jumpsuits, jeans, jumpers…forget it. Well, lets just say I’ve tried, and failed miserably to reason with her that these clothes are gorgeous, great, practical etc etc etc but this girl is having none of it.
A wise man, formerly my manager, once told me to ‘pick my battles’ when dealing with senior management. I’ve decided a similar approach with my three year old is a good tactic, so am letting it go. Yet, I can’t help but wonder if I’m making a mistake?
Recently, our threenager’s preference for pink has been getting a little out of hand. She will only eat off the pink plastic plate, drink from the pink plastic cup, use the pink hello kitty cutlery, sit on the pink stool…you get the idea. In the comfort of our own home, that’s one thing, but are we fanning the flames? In the presence of friends, family, it’s getting a bit embarrassing that she will throw a major strop, tears and all, if anyone else by chance is allocated a pink item of crockery over her.
Beautiful moments of her sitting drawing with her cousins and friends, ending in tears by her hogging the pink pens and pencils, having a melt down if anyone else tries to use them.
We’re riding this wave, trying all the usual ways of dealing with a tantrumming toddler, but over the colour pink? I just don’t get it?!
I know we are not alone in this strange scenario. With our second daughter we just gave right in and she was a pink baby from day one. (She’ll probably end up being a tom boy?)
What I have learn’t in this strange learning curve of parenting, is that your child is not your possession to mould into whatever you choose – they are independent tiny people with free will, learning how to assert their own choices. And asserting them, she certainly is.
Where is that parenting textbook again?…..