Blogging or Jogging; Achieving a Blog-life-balance

Blogging or jogging*?

*May be substituted with cleaning, bathing, shopping, socialising, sleeping, internet browsing, watching, cooking.

As a new blogger, and a mum of two young children, I’m having doubts about where this new ‘hobby’ will fit in to my already hectic life.

Last week was a standard week after a busy weekend; tiring, draining, packed out. As a result the blogging slowed down a little (admittedly it probably needed to after my first few weeks of excitement / AKA addiction). Each day my head was filled with potential blog posts; each one jotted into my notes app on my iPhone waiting to fulfil it’s blog-post destiny. The list is growing daily…

There are other things I have every intention of doing soon. Organise the thousands of photos on my camera…look into taking up a course whilst I’m ‘between jobs’…oh, and get fit post baby.

After my first little bundle of joy, I found a love of running. I’m not talking marathons, or even competitive 5Ks. Just trainers on, earphones in and round the block. After kids bath/bed time, before my shower/dinner, twice, sometimes three times a week. It worked because there was no time commitment, no cost and no pressure to perform. I began to love that sense of freedom I got from running – no baby bag, no pram, no one tugging at my leg. Just me, my thoughts, some good tunes and the sensation of the air filling my lungs. I paired up with a pal which was a great incentive as we’d push each other on and try not to let each other down if we’d arranged a run. Plus, we could catch up on gossip which was a major bonus (once we were good enough to be able to breathe, run, talk in unison) and I felt good that for once socialising didn’t end up with a 3 day hangover.

The running dwindled when pregnancy number 2 happened. I had every intention of getting back to it after the arrival of my second baby, once I got my evenings back. With TG that was what, 8 weeks in, maybe 12? I figured by January I’d be back to the old routine. Ha ha, lets all  laugh now at my naivety.

My evenings nowadays generally take a standard routine…6.00 ish the kettle goes on for milk, the bath is run. By 6.45 baby-G is soundo (for how long is anyones guess). *Cue time after baby #1, trainers would be on and I’d be out of the door* The revised schedule with two kids means we have a bit more coercing to get the all clear. Stories, hair brushing, teeth brushing, wee before bed…you get the idea. By 7.30 T-G is pretty much out for the count and it’s ‘our time’. Our time, that is, to do everything we haven’t had time to do during the day, plus prepare and eat our dinner, clean up, reply to messages, call mum back, do a sweep of the house. Take a shower / bath, sort my hair. As BBG still is unsettled at night and up by 6 I’m pretty much a walking zombie by 10.00 at the latest, so that leaves approximately an hour, an hour and a half of time to myself per day. Subtract the days we might have stuff on…a drink with the girls, friends or family over, a late night for the kids, watching a film together (‘Quality time’)…

So what is all this waffle getting to? The point is, my blog friends, that I am struggling to find the time to do the things I want to be doing. How on earth do some of the other pro-blogger mums of 5 manage to fit in all that blogging, tweeting, crafting, general perfect parenting? Sure I can keep up with the social media side of blogging via my smart phone, but that isn’t what I wanted being a blogger to be about. Especially when my three year old asks me to put my phone down, and, is exactly the reason I embraced a facebook blackout during my first maternity leave.

Take this week. Monday evening, I was seriously contemplating this to be the night I dusted off those trainers (and they needed serious dusting, having been under the hall way dresser through a 10 week building renovation). I  came close, so close. But, I did need to get a Tesco food shop ordered online. And I did so want to write a blog that was burning a hole in my pocket. So I made the choice; blogging over jogging. The result? Quite frankly an exhausted-brain mess of a blog that was promptly deleted. If you read it, I can only apologise. A food shop which was updated in 3 parts, unsaved and totally ballsed up. A week of no food for dinners, resulting in 3 takeaways (compounding the no jogging decision impact on my mum-tum). An over tired, emotional, ‘nothing left’ falling into bed. In summary, a write off.

Like so many of us mums, I want it all. I want to be an amazing mum to my girls and fill their days with fun experiences and hearty wholesome food. I want the freedom to express my own interests an hobbies; writing, exploring this new adventure. Seeing my friends; maintaining the friendships that I have left, post motherhood, where some have fallen down the cracks. Enjoy the company of my husband and maintain a healthy marriage. I want to take care of my body in order to keep that vessel going as long as possible to watch my kids grow up. And yes, I do want to look good in those new jeans. I just want….. a few more hours in each day please?

I doubt its just me who puts too much pressure on myself to be all of those things, After all, being a parent of two children is a huge task. Keeping them clean, fed, happy…alive. Although, I know there are things I could do to make my life easier. Mostly, revolving around feeding the G-unit… ‘One meal for all’ is my mantra. If I can feed baby, toddler, myself, and hubby (home later) in a one stop shop dinner which can be served, kept warm, reheated, my evenings are so much more relaxed. (That was my new years resolution, and was going great until the house renovation.) It just seems lately I’ve fallen into the trap of being a catering establishment serving 6 different meals a day.

As I face a new week ahead, I will learn from my mistakes. I can be a blogger, but not at the cost of being a sane mother.

And if you see a 30 something female jogger out midweek at about 8.00, give me a beep 🙂

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32 thoughts on “Blogging or Jogging; Achieving a Blog-life-balance

  1. wonderfulandaverage Reply

    These are exactly the same thoughts I’m having! I want it all too. I’m a fellow newbie blogger and am struggling to find the ‘blog-life balance’ too. I have no idea how the pro-bloggers manage it! If it was just a case of writing blog posts it would fit in just fine, but it’s all the social media stuff too that seems to take up so much time, and I hate having my phone in my hand all day when I want to be focused on my little boy. I love blogging but I definitely need to work on the blog-life balance, let me know if you figure it out!

  2. plaguedparents Reply

    Balancing everything is so hard to do. It is trial and error, don’t give up!

  3. mummascribbles Reply

    This is me!!! I was literally having a conversation with my other half yesterday because I need to exercise but equally I need to blog! He suggested that instead of blog one night, that I exercise. My face was like…WHAT?! But I know he is right and I know that I am not superwoman! That said, how am I supposed to reach the pro blogger status if I don’t blog haha?! What a turmoil! #sundaystars

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      The problem I found was that after choosing to blog, I wrote total rubbish! I guess a good blog required a healthy mind… Stressed out writing certainly didn’t work for me lol 🙂 x MMT

  4. Random Musings Reply

    I know exactly what you mean! While I’m not a mother, I do work full time and I somehow try to blog full time around it plus try to actually have a life, and keep up with current affairs so I have something to write about lol #SundayStars
    Debbie
    http://www.myrandommusings.blogspot.com

  5. Sarah-Jane Reply

    Its a daily battle for me, especially over the summer trying to juggle everything but i find that giving myself ‘Windows’ works. Like with the online shopping. I’ll set Agent M up with an activity that might take 30 min and i use that window to do the shopping. I dont look at anything else and just focus on getting that task done. Blogging i usually do either early mornings before hes awake or at night when hes in bed and schedule for the next day. Everything i do these days falls into half hour window.

    Finding balance might take a wee while but you’ll get there. The notes thing is good too … I use blogger app to jot down posts on the go and then when i get a chance beef them out with pictures and content.

    You’ll get there huni

    Sarah-Jane (@craftymama087)

    #SundayStars

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      Thanks Sarah. I’ll check out the blogger app. Great tip! Good luck finding your #BLB x MMT

  6. Sarah Howe (@RunJumpScrap) Reply

    Brilliant post! This is something I worry about when I have another…I know my exercise and blogging will suffer but you need to sacrifice somethings don’t you? I think you have a great balance and I hope you can get back into your blogging and jogging in time!! xx #bloggingtojogging

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      Thanks Sarah…it’s pretty intense getting to grips with it all and finding time to generate decent content. I’ll get there 🙂 xMMT

    2. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      Exactly Sarah. We can be wobbly happy blogger mums right?! 😉 x MMT

  7. tenminutesspare Reply

    I know exactly how you feel! It is so very difficult fitting it all in. I still think of myself as a new blogger (it’s been about 6 months) but in that time I’ve discovered the vital importance of not comparing my blog to the professionals! My job and my profession is as a doctor, I’m a mum of 2 and I love to run. Blogging is such a fun hobby but for me that’s all. Fitting in all the rest of it is tough so I can only blog sporadically. I’m sure over the coming weeks you’ll find a balence that works for you. Looking forwards to reading more soon. #bloggingtojogging.

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      Great point. I’m not sure I’m good enough to ever make a pro blogger? But have to start somewhere and yes we should look up to the pros, but not expect to be them in month #1. Thanks for reading and commenting x MMT

  8. Mum of 3 kiddiewinks Reply

    Time is so precious.with me blogging is always the first thing to suffer. Instead the school holidays are spent catching up…

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      At least the kids aren’t the first thing to suffer – that wouldn’t make blogging a great addition to life would it?! Thanks for reading and commenting x MMT

  9. cheryl Reply

    I can feel for you, life and schedule are chaos when having kids, let alone having job and blog too. Great post! #TwinklyTuesday

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      Chaos exactly Cheryl! Thanks for commenting. The good news is I don’t have to factor in work now… I just got made redundant!! Hoping blogging will fill a void that my active mind needs to function 🙂 x MMT

  10. Jemma Chambers Reply

    On my word!!! I’m not alooooooooone! I can so relate to your post; my saving grace is a dog who needs a daily walk once the kids are in bed and that’s how I get my exercise – I have no choice. I read somewhere that the key to being organised and ‘getting stuff done’ is to finish everything. Don’t even think about starting something unless you have the tie to finish it. Don’t put a wash on it you dont have the time to get it out as soon as it’s done (or you end up with festering wet clothes. Don’t start the online shop unless you can finish it there and then. Pick one task and get it done. easier said than done with kids around but it gets you in the right mind set and stops loads of half done, or worse, badly done jobs #twinklytuesday

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      Thanks Jemma. Your reply struck a chord as that’s always been my work ethic. I was even labelled a completed finisher in my management training. It’s definitely spilt over into my home and parenting world! It can be somewhat exhausting though, trying to be superwoman! Maybe I need to get a puppy 🙂 (joke, my mum recently got one and that’s a tough job too!) thanks for reading x MMT

  11. allpastmidnight Reply

    I agree wholeheartedly. Blogging can take so freaking long, from getting the actual post drafted to finding and editing images, to joining linkies and the requisite visiting and replying on other blogs (where it is so easy to get sucked down the rabbithole). I’m a newbie blogger too, and am only just finding my feet. I’m trying to think long-term — my daughter will be starting school soon and my son will be starting nursery a couple of days a week, which will free up my time. I’m sure the same will be true for you, plus getting everyone eating the same meal will make an enormous difference to how much time you have (love stews for how child-friendly and easy to reheat they are).

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      Thanks so much. I’m definitely thinking ahead to September when my eldest will be at present school every morning and hopefully baby will nap! Wishful thinking 🙂 stews are a winter life saver for time management….if only the hubby liked them! #mum problems x MMT

  12. Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks Reply

    My problem is I’m not that organised or at least not organised enough to complete each multitask in an efficient time!

    I hate jogging but love the achievement!

    I’m trying to switch off at least one night a week for the sake of my marriage! #twinklytuesday

  13. Merlinda Little (@pixiedusk) Reply

    As of me writing this comment I can feel jiggles on my tummy that wasnt there before. I want to move and go out and exercise but.. yes there the but. I wish I can find that balance. I wish I can. #twinklytuesday

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      I’m with you. Hmmmm where did I put that fruit & Nut?….x MMT

  14. Caroline Reply

    It is so hard to find a balance. I need to get running I have my first half marathon in November and as it stands I can only run 5km!!! but I am really struggling to find the time and willpower to get out of the front door.

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      Wow…you’re clearly doing better than me! I’ll be proud if I make it round the block this side of Christmas 😉 x MMT

  15. Sam Kersley Reply

    I just wanted to say I really ewnjoyed reading this, I’m a mum to a 1 year old and a new blogger and I just started running and it takes some planning to get 3 runs in each week. I keep the runs to the same day Wednesday, Friday and sunday. I don’t have 2 kids of my own but I have a 9 year old step daughter and my 1 yr old son. it can get stressful at times esp when neither of them listen to me. I’m sure you’ll get there but we as mothers do put far too much pressure on ourselves to be these domestic goddesses and perfect mothers.

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      Thanks Sam. I just about managed it when I had one baby, but the energy tanks are pretty much depleted once the two nippers are tucked up in bed these days! guess all that running around after them. Just burn some calories?….. X MMT

  16. mummascribbles Reply

    I’m here again commenting, I know I’ve already commented once and then didn’t act on anything but I thought I’d share my proudness with you! Tonight, befroe I sat down to read my linky posts…I EXERCISED!!! Yep, I did a quick half hour of Jillian Michaels 30 day shred! Wish I’d have started sooner as I feel so much better now knowing I’ve done something! It’s just a shame about all those cakes and biccies I ate today! Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

    1. mummuddlingthrough Reply

      Ha ha, hey welcome back! I’m honoured! That’s great! Amazing in fact! I’m sorry to say my achievements were keeping the children alive, a great new Thai curry recipe, finding a great new Netflix series and watching 3 episodes, packing for a mini break but…..no jogging?! Maybe next week!! 😉 x MMT

  17. mrshsfavouritethings Reply

    Brilliant post! This is how I feel about blogging a lot. I love blogging so much. It has made me much happier. But it is easy to get carried away with it and try to compete with the big boys. But that is not me and there is no shame in that. I love to blog for me. But on some days I want to get an early night or spend a night snuggled on the sofa with Mr H. And that is fine! Blogging should be enjoyable. You should never feel you have to blog. You should want to blog. But keep going because I love your style of writing. Thanks for linking up to #SundaysStars. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

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  19. Mummy Rules Reply

    Oh my goodness I can totally relate to this – my thoughts on the subject have peaked today as I had one rare toddler free morning and I wanted to get loads done…I did the shopping and I blogged and then it was time to pick her up. Then my phone was sending me alerts about my post, which made me feel insanely guilty as I couldn’t resist checking it much to the frustration of tot. I now want to write a post about that guilt but it’s a viscous circle!! Would love my blogging to be better but really I will be putting everything else first. Thanks for sharing xx

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