Occupational hazards of raising girls

Sometimes I wonder if it was destined that I would be a Mum to girls. It’s looking unlikely that I’ll ever know what it’s like to raise a son, not least because we seem to have a family which has a strong tendency to produce kids of the XX type, even if we were to have 5 more children, they’d probably all be girls.

And that’s totally fine with me, because I couldn’t be happier to raise some strong, feisty females – teach them how to ‘have courage and be kind’, and (it’s inevitable), spin around the place singing along to disney princess albums, which incidentally, I may or may not know all the words to. For the record, I also have got stuck in teaching them to scoot down ramps, climb trees, and watch Star Wars.

Yes, I am trying my best to keep it 21st century. We love playing a game of ‘Boys or Girls?’ Which goes something like this…

“Who can be in the police, Boys or Girls?”

“Boys and Girls!”

“Correct!” *High Five*

 

“Who can look after little babies, Boys or Girls?”

“Boys AND Girls!”

“Correct!” *Whoop whoop*

 

There is so much more to learn on our journey of raising the mini-G girls, but here are some of the ‘Occupational Hazards’ we have picked up along the way so far.

  1. Glitter. Everywhere. Don’t think by keeping the craft box out of reach you can keep it under control. The stuff will become part of your very existence as it is scattered around your home from toys, cards and dresses like fairy dust. Hoovering won’t get rid of it, the stuff sticks with a static super bond to hard floors, and if you spill a container, may as well just embrace it – roll around in the spillage and sparkle for the next week, or month.
  2. RSI of the ears. Also known as the Frozen soundtrack. Just as our first daughter showed signs of maybe getting bored of it, her younger sister has started to shout ‘GO’ every time we get in the car. The novelty of track 10 wears off before you can say ‘The cold never bothered me anyway’ and you’ll curse the day you ever thought the music of that Disney film was pretty good. We thought the One Direction days were bad, but this? Musical highs in our car nowadays are being able to listen to ‘For the first time in forever’, as opposed to, well, you know…no prizes for guessing which song.
  3. Princesses. Books, dresses, dolls. Cuddly ones, Barbie doll style ones, miniature figurines. There is no end to the Disney princess paraphernalia. If you have ever felt the emotion of actual joy in finding two tiny shoes and reuniting them with their original 12 inch owner, you, like me, have probably reached for the super glue and made the unity a permanent bond. Literally.
  4. Hair bobbles and clips. On the side of the bath, in every pocket, in the side pockets in the car (and around the gear stick), down the side of every sofa, and probably the reason your washing machine is making some strange noises. Trouble is, you can NEVER find one when you get to the bottom of that impromptu french braid…
  5. Which brings me finally, to the hair situation. Yes, I have had toddler hair envy, but I have also had many, many battles of hair washing, tears over knots, and resorted to scissors when defeated by button back dresses. (WHY do they put buttons on the back of kids sweaters? Adults seem to manage to fit their big heads into jumpers just fine?). Stock up on detangler, conditioner, tangle teasers…and always BBB (Braid Before Bed). Their hair may not look perfect, but you’ll spend ten times the time on theirs, than your own. Fact.

Wouldn’t change a thing.

x MMT

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54 thoughts on “Occupational hazards of raising girls

  1. Thirtysomethingbelle Reply

    Yes! I am a mama to 2 girls and can relate to every word of this. Lisa x

    1. MMT Reply

      Thanks for reading Lisa! I love having two girls xxx

  2. Mrs Tubbs Reply

    We never had the hair thing … The Tubblet’s hair is really fine so grips and elastics just would slide off so we never bothered with braids more than a few times etc. Just as well as my hair has always been short and I had to watch YouTube to learn how to do them!

  3. jaxbest Reply

    This is such a sweet post! Have to agree on the clips and hairbands!! Everywhere
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  4. pinkpearbear Reply

    Yes yes yes yes yes!! I have one of each but this is my daughter to a t! Although my son is now not adverse to frozen, princess films, make overs and even hairclips on occasion, (where the hell do they go?!?!?!?), and she is not adverse to mud, scooting and jumping off stuff. I LOVE your game btw, and superglueing the shoes on?! Ruddy genius!!! Thanks for linking up and teaching me something in the process! #bigpinklink

  5. Kaye Reply

    Haha, I’m the opposite! Mr J has a son with a previous partner, we have a boy and I’m pregnant with another and though we haven’t found out the gender, I’ve always been sure I’ll be a mum to boys! Lovely reading this and seeing the other side. I’ve always found ti crazy how my boy is obsessed with diggers and cars even though we’ve always brought him up gender-neutrally! Thanks for linking to #MarvMondays! Kaye xo

  6. Fran @ Whinge Whinge Wine Reply

    My daughter is only two and yet, since before her second birthday, has been belting out LET IT GO every day and I can already sympathise with the others too! I’ve watched the same effing Disney princess medley on youtube EVERY DAY since my blinking sister showed it to her! Hopefully her little bro will keep her in check.

    1. MMT Reply

      We started off gently with Toy Story… 1,2,3 and then she discovered princesses. The rest is history!!! X

  7. Siena Says Reply

    Oh yes I hear you. Fellow mummy of 2 girls. I love having girls and I was really pleased when I found out number 2 was going to be a girl too. I have never thought of gluing the shoes to the dolls, that is genius.

    Hair is the bane of my life, both of mine have always detested having their hair brushed. My 11 year old now loves having her hair brushed and begs me to do it. However the nearly 3 year old hides every time I get the brush out. Thank God for tangle teasers is all I can say.

    And wait until their are stealing your makeup!

    #bigpinklink

    1. MMT Reply

      I can’t wait to steal theirs! Xx

  8. Life Love and Dirty Dishes Reply

    As a mum of boys it’s nice to hear about the other side. Although my big one is a huge fan f One Direction, because in his words, “There’s no girls!” #CoolMumsClub

    1. MMT Reply

      Ha ha. Have you ever read my post ‘baby directioner’? We have a lot of love for Harry in our house! Thanks for reading Claire x

  9. Something About Baby Reply

    I’m a mumma to a little boy, but it sounds like a lot of….fun? (Is that the right word?! ) raising little girls. Fab post #coolmumclub

    1. MMT Reply

      Yeah it’s so much fun! Love the hand I’ve been dealt, as do we all, whatever it turns out to be xx

  10. crummymummy1 Reply

    The glitter…no-one tells you about the glitter… #coolmumclub

    1. MMT Reply

      Ha ha, they certainly do not! X

  11. Katy (@hotpinkwellies) Reply

    Ah, this is a lovely post! Although I come from a family where my whole generation (sister, cousins) were all girls, we seem to be producing a next generation of all boys, so it’s lovely to read this! I remember the hair problems well from being a kid – I insisted on having long hair, but it’s a nightmare to look after and caused lots of upsets in our house. Hoping that this won’t be an issue with my son! #coolmumclub

  12. justsayingmum Reply

    ha ha brilliant account of what it’s like raising 2 girls – having 2 of my own I completely hear you – the glitter – yikes! But also we used to have naked barbie dolls everywhere like some flipping barbie orgy – it was horrific and in such compromising positions – all felt terribly inappropriate well people came over for playdates – I should have glued their clothes on! #coolmumclub

  13. Robina - babylists.co.uk Reply

    Hahaha! A bit of glitter and the Frozen soundtrack would be welcome in my household as I am surrounded by boys but this post is very funny and you paint a great picture! Thanks so much for hosting #coolmumclub

    1. MMT Reply

      Think my hubby would like a football buddy – but I don’t think saying things like that is legal in this day and age. Tigs already ‘hates football’ but maybe her younger sis could be the next big thing in ladies soccer! X

  14. Squirmy Popple Reply

    My daughter is only 10 months old and she’s already into ‘Let it Go’ from Frozen – when she gets hysterical, it’s sometimes the only thing that will calm her down. I see many years of annoying Disney music in my future. #coolmumclub

  15. cherylbarry Reply

    Hah hah! As a mum of 2 girls, one of three sisters and 3 nieces (1 nephew), I can so relate to this! Boys are never destined to be in our family too! Like you, I really try to encourage my daughters to be brave and to do anything that boys can do. Obviously in amongst all the glitter and princess stuff! My eldest is a real girly girl and when she told me last week that she didn’t want the “boys” face painting, only the “girls” one, I had to have a conversation about how boys and girls can have any one they want, not gender defined! Thanks for hosting #CoolMumClub xx

  16. Rhyming with Wine Reply

    God yes to the hair bobbles! They just get everywhere!! I seem to spend hours braiding Miss Tot’s hair, only for her to pull out the bobble as soon as we get out of the front door, leaving us a) running 10 mins late as it always takes me longer than I anticipate to braid, and b) looking like a fraggle with hair all over the place. Good idea to superglue the shoes though? Would this work with braids I wonder (*slaps self* This would be frowned upon I’m sure!) 🙂

    Thanks for hosting
    #coolmumclub

  17. motherhoodtherealdeal Reply

    Tis all about the girls this week! Thankfully my daughter is definitely a product of the 21st century – equal love of Thomas The Tank Engine, Pirates, Princesses and Fairies – PHEW! Sending #coolmumclub awesome loving vibes along with this comment x

    1. MMT Reply

      We are huge on Pirates here too…and Dinosaurs…and MORE GLITTER! 😉 Some great posts already…enjoy reading partner!

  18. Petite Pudding (@petite_pudding) Reply

    Mum to a girl is a new experience for me – thanks for the heads up on the glitter and the braiding of hair before bed (would never have thought of that one) We are already having hair issues due to having a thick head of hair at birth, at present she spends most of her time looking like Harry Potter! #coolmumclub

  19. beautybabyandme Reply

    Obviously I’ve got a little boy but I often see my little niece and I end up with all sorts of hair clips and bobbles in my handbag so goodness knows how much you must have!!! I’d love a little girl for Josh to be big brother to xx #coolmumclub

  20. Helen Reply

    Ah this is lovely. Yay to you raising feisty independent ones who climb trees etc. I have a pigeon pair (yuk phrase) but yes to the glitter, hair clips, Frozen, constant singing and hair brushing battles!!! They are ruddy marvels though aren’t they? xx #coolmumclub

  21. To Arizona......and beyond Reply

    I have all these things to look forward to and I can’t wait! I’ve Disney songs at the moment but I’m expecting that to change pretty quickly! #coolmumsclub

  22. Tilly at Mummy Rules Reply

    I am an all-girl mummy too, they couldn’t be more different but I hope they both grow up to be kind and confident. They are both too young for Frozen (lucky me!) but already adopt a lot of screeching and high pitched screams that cats can hear from miles away. Thanks for the warning about the glitter!!!! #coolmumclub

  23. Natalie @KidGearUK Reply

    I have two boys so I’ve escaped the hair battles and bobbles. On the other hand, Frozen and glitter still managed to invade my house…aahh! #coolmumclub

  24. Kat Reply

    The glitter isn’t just my daughter…Oops! We do happen to hear a lot of Frozen though in the house, we’ve recently learned that she does not like to listen to Let it Go in any other language though.

  25. Tall Mum in Manchester Reply

    Sure my brother would relate to this, having 2 girls! I heard my fair share of the Frozen soundtrack at Christmas, mainly via a karaoke machine! He has 2 boys as well, so the best (and worst) of both worlds. #coolmumclub

  26. Louise Reply

    Oh yes, I can certainly identify with these! Hair bobbles everywhere, the Frozen soundtrack (usually combined with the LEGO Friends songs in our house) on endless repeat – although I have to admit I’m quite partial to belting out ‘Let it Go’ when the girls allow me to join in – and attaching tiny shoes on to dolls with superglue (yup done that one!) And yes, like you I wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂

    1. MMT Reply

      The first doll to get the glue treatment was mini Harry Styles (*baby directioner) and I’ve never looked back! Lovely to have to pop by, hugs to your two gorgeous girls Louise xx

  27. Kat Reply

    I always through I’d be a mum of sons for some reason and then I had a daughter and now I feel like it will be girls. Thanks for the heads up. Baby Girl is a little too young for hear things to be a hazard to me but I’m sure we won’t be too far away x #coolmumclub

  28. Complicated Gorgeousness Reply

    I have one girl but it feels like I have more as she makes her presence known ha. I do love all the girl-related things but she loves the boy’s toys just as much xxx Great post #coolmumclub

  29. emetomumblog Reply

    haha you make me want a girl! with my son it is diggers, and mud and picking his nose and farting – all good fun but id like some glitter on top please hehe! #coolmumclub

  30. Blue Faced Momma (@BlueFacedMomma) Reply

    I can’t wait to have a girl. I have a 3 year old boy, and most his cousins are boys. Trains, trucks and dirt. That’s what it’s in my life. I yearn for pony tails and princesses! Thanks for the great insight! #coolmumclub

  31. min1980 Reply

    I think I am going to adopt the “who can…? Boys and girls!” mantra with my son. Raising a feminist boy is my central goal in life. I would love to have a little girl as well though, although I do think I’d quickly tire of Frozen (and *whispers* I haven’t even seen it). #coolmumclub

    1. MMT Reply

      I think turning the femenism lessons into a game has worked a treat…all my nieces and nephews are in on it too now. Hey, Min…who can love Frozen? Boys or Girls? BOYS AND GIRLS! PIglet would love it! x

  32. Something Crunchy Mummy Reply

    I don’t have any girls and like your family I think ours are destined for all boys! I could write a list like this about boys 🙂 great list. #coolmumclub xx

  33. newmummyblogcom Reply

    Thanks for the heads up! H has loads of hair, and I have been told about plaiting it before bed too and also to help with hair drying (she hates the hair dryer). So I think I’ll soon be doing this… I haven’t tried yet, I don’t think it would stay in very long if i did, but remind me about this in a few months when I inevitably write about hair tangles 🙂

  34. EllamentalMama Reply

    Love the idea of the Boys or Girls: Boys AND Girls game! I only have a son but we do lots of these things… he loves glitter, singing, his dolly and when I do his hair up! He tries to do my hair but let’s just say he’s got a way to go before I leave the house with it after he’s worked his magic 😉

  35. tammymum Reply

    Aaaah a glimpse into my future, although I have one if each I imagine it will be, glitter, hair grips and Lego all over the house! That being said I do have an older step daughter and I can confirm they do not grow out of leaving hair grip everywhere, they just multiple …oh and crisp packets get thrown into the mix for good measure! #coolmumclub xx

  36. Tracy Reply

    Three boys here but I have inherited four step-daughters. The youngest was eight when I met OH and she’s a bigger tom boy than me lol. I naturally seem to be more at ease with boys than girls but I have brothers as well so maybe that plays a part in it. X #coolmumclub

  37. This Mum's Life Reply

    Oooh, I just had a little (well massive actually!) stab of envy!! I have 2 boys, and I would really love a girl!! Not that I would change my boys, they are clearly awesome! And there is also something a little shameful in not having appreciation for the gender you have, but I can’t help feeling a little sad that I won’t experience a girl! Especially when I think of the shopping trips, theatre breaks, and all of the things I used to do with my mum! Despite my trying to introduce glitter, princesses and dolls, the boys are only into superheroes, cars, football-already favouring just kicking a ball around at the park over anything else! Like your family, ours only seems to be able to produce boys-there’s been no girls on my husbands side for 36 years now!! So I’d probably have 5 boys!! Not something I feel I could cope with…!
    #coolmumclub

  38. absolutely prabulous Reply

    It’s really weird, my sister’s daughter who is only 3 months younger than my little one, is obsessed OBSESSED with Frozen. It never really registered with my 2 girls although the little one did have a minor Frozen infatuation over Christmas which had me thinking Oh God here we go. This post did make me laugh and nod along. Although, being the worst laziest mum ever, I don’t relate to the hair thing as those poor girls of mine just have to deal with it themselves (and hair bobbles just don’t stay on our stupid silky Indian hair). #BigPinkLink

  39. Trista, Domesticated Momster Reply

    I have two girls who are COMPLETE opposites! One is a tomboy through and through and the other is a girly girl to the fullest extent. I must say that I am almost relieved that the one prefers her hair short because it makes life so much easier for me since the other one wants a different hair-do every day. And it’s down to the middle of her back. Girls are a lot more work than boys but I agree with you…we need more strong and confident ones in this world and who better to teach them then us strong willed mothers??? Thanks again for hostessing :)) #coolmumclub

  40. Silly Mummy Reply

    Ah yes, the princesses – it appears no amount of discouragement will keep them away from the princesses! #coolmumclub

  41. butterflymum83 Reply

    Love this! I only have a boy so far but maybe one day. The hair thing terrifies me I must say, I can barely do my own hair! #coolmumclub x

  42. Naomi Reply

    Oh lovely! I have two boys, so I can’t relate… but it makes me want a girl so much! #coolmumclub

    1. MMT Reply

      Do your boys sleep? We could swap?! Ha ha just kidding 😉

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