#coolmumclub: Meet the Members…Mum In Brum

I’m over the moon to Introduce Natalie, as our debut guest post on #coolmumclub: Meet the Members. If you haven’t already subscribed to Natalies blog, www.muminbrum.com, it’s one not to be missed featuring beautiful interiors, recipes and relatable posts about Parenting, relationships and life. You can follow Natalie on Twitter (@_NatalieEve), as well as facebook, pinterest and google+.

You can also be part of #coolmumclub by linking up with mum muddling through and motherhood the real deal every Thursday.

Enjoy… x MMT

When Sarah at Mum Muddling Through asked me to write a post for #coolmumclub about myself I was a little stumped. Despite what some people may assume about bloggers being narcissistic, in ‘real life’ I’m not really one for talking about myself. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good natter and I’m certainly not the shy and retiring type, but when everyone’s attention is on me I can feel a little uncomfortable. I much prefer asking the questions than answering them. But here goes!

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I started Mum in Brum exactly a year ago when I left my job as a senior PR manager to go on maternity leave. I’d always loved the idea of starting a blog, but never got around to it when working full time. I also knew I would miss writing, which was something I did every day in my job, and so blogging quickly filled that void. I finished work a month before Taylor was due and used that time to get Mum in Brum off the ground. I’m so glad I started it straight away as I don’t think I would’ve set it up once Taylor was born – I admit that I totally underestimated how knackered I would be and how little time I would have – especially in those first few months!

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I wasn’t quite prepared for those early months if I’m honest. Taylor seemed to be super feisty and strong headed from the moment she came out, and I spent most of the first three months trying to sooth a baby who never stopped wailing. She would never go to sleep when we put her down, she wouldn’t accept a dummy and she hated her milk. I didn’t feel like I could comfort her and I certainly didn’t feel like she had that whole ‘bonding with mum’ instinct that the midwives had banged on about – she just seemed to want to get away from me and hated being held! I also had a ‘mare trying to breastfeed which I gave up after the first week which made me feel (I’m ashamed to say now) like a bit of a failure.

Obviously as a first-time mum I had no idea if any of this was normal and I admit that I could be found on a couple of occasions at 2am sat in bed with the quilt over my head, fingers in my ears – 4 hours, 3 attempted bottles, 10 cuddles, 5 swaddles, 8 lullabies, countless dummy spit outs later – shouting (in my head) ‘I JUST WANT TO GO TO SLEEP!!!!” At 11 weeks she was diagnosed with a kidney infection and had to be hospitalised for a couple of nights. As well as antibiotics for the infection the doctors also prescribed her Infant Gaviscon for reflux which made the world of difference to her feeding. Whether it was the infection or it was a coincidence, when she came out of the hospital it was like having a different baby – so much more content.

But Taylor did provide the inspiration for most of those early posts and blogging provided an outlet for me to channel my exasperation and see the humour in it all. Reading about the experiences of other blogger parents was also a huge help and made me feel like I wasn’t such a shit mother after all – it happens to the best of us. My blog has evolved quite a bit over the year and I have changed its course to incorporate more lifestyle posts. I still love writing the parenting posts and that will always be at its core, but it seems that a happy baby (Taylor is a joy at 11 months now) makes for far less inspired writing! I love home interiors (we are renovating our house) and have begun to incorporate this more heavily into my blog, alongside days out, recipes and reviews.

I have lots of aspirations for Mum in Brum and have become a little obsessed with blogging! I love everything about it and I love having something ‘for me’ that keeps my brain engaged throughout the nappy changes, nursery rhymes and hanging out the washing.

I’ve recently started to take part in a lot more linkys and I’ve really seen the benefit, finding great like-minded bloggers in communities which feel ‘me’ (#coolmumclub) and seeing an increase in my traffic as a result. I’m also trying to get better at social media, focusing most heavily on Twitter rather than trying to nail them all at once, which is what I’ve tried (and failed) to do in the past.

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As of this month I’m officially self-employed as a freelancer (PR and copywriting) and I would love for my blog to form a decent part of my income one day. At the moment I blog as a hobby, but I secured my first paid for post pretty early on and have collaborated with a handful of brands, and I am keen to start to get back something for all of the effort that goes in to it. Bloggers work so hard and I personally feel that bloggers on the whole are selling themselves short. There are far too many ‘blog/brand match’ platforms out there who are setting the bar too low – I don’t think that £20 is a fair price to pay a blogger who has worked so hard to build their page views, not to mention write the  post in question, sort photography and promote the post on behalf of a brand. Especially when you look at overall advertising and PR budgets. Content on blogs is now forming an intrinsic part of PR and marketing campaigns and the blogging community needs to wake up to this and start realising their worth.

So my plan is to carry on building Mum in Brum – I know that I need to post more often but I’m still struggling to find the time since I’m limited to Taylor’s nap times (usually about one hour in the day) and the evenings (and I do like to spend some time with my hubby who I often feel like I’m deserting when tapping away on my laptop!)

 I’m also determined to not start posting just for the sake of it and my key ‘blogging ethos’ is to be 100% happy with every post I publish.

I do find it difficult to not constantly compare myself to other great bloggers out there who are posting every day, but my main goal for now is to just make sure that my blog is growing month on month. And to enjoy it!

Some other things about me:

  • I live in the West Midlands with my hubby (Mr M), Taylor and our four year old cocker spaniel who thinks he is our first born
  • I’m a complete English girl at heart and love nothing better than roast dinners, pub beer gardens and the British countryside
  • I went to uni in Birmingham and studied very little
  • I’m originally from Mansfield and also lived in Cheltenham for five years from being 22
  • My pet hates include: getting wet socks, people queuing next to me (not behind!), when Mr Mr fills up the sink with clean soapy water and then sticks the frying pan in first…
  • I would love to live by the sea one day. In fact, we have just bought a boat (yes, a boat) but we haven’t learnt how to sail it yet. And it’s in Plymouth.
  • I will always join you for a glass of red. Or any drink in fact.
  • I add chili to pretty much every dish I cook. And coriander. And garlic.
  • I turned 31 this year
  • I’m a Libra

Apparently I’m pretty good at talking about myself after all…I hope you’ll pop over to say hello! x

 

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42 thoughts on “#coolmumclub: Meet the Members…Mum In Brum

  1. Mum in Brum Reply

    So excited to be your debut #coolmumclub guest! Thanks for featuring lovely xx

    1. MMT Reply

      It’s a pleasure…you were the perfect place to start. Such a cool mum 😉 x

  2. mand Reply

    Nice to meet you 🙂 heading over to your blog now.

  3. rhymingwithwine Reply

    I love hearing people’s stories and learning about what inspires them to blog, Lovely to meet you and I’ll look forward to reading more about #coolmumclub.

    Popping over through #bestandworst x

    1. MMT Reply

      I can’t recommend Natalies blog enough – definitely one of my favourites! Thanks for reading and commenting x MMT

  4. sisterk1n Reply

    A great guest post. #bestandworst

  5. The Anxious Dragon Reply

    Congratulations on being MMT’s first guest coolmum. Its always great to find out about other bloggers (im sooo nosey). I would love to live by the sea too, and I hope some of your sailing adventures as and when you have rhem end up as posts xx
    #Coolmumclub xx

  6. Kaye Reply

    Nice to meet you and Taylor! I know what you mean about those first few months, I also completely underestimated how little time I would have and assumed I’d have loads being on maternity! Ha ha! #coolmumclub

  7. Robyn Reply

    Great to learn a little more about the blogger behind the blog. I can certainly relate to your pet hates! I enjoy reading what you write at Mum in Brum too. #coolmumclub

  8. bloodsugarecmomagik Reply

    Lovely post! Hi Mum in Brum x #coolmumclub x

  9. Hannah Reply

    I love reading people’s journeys. Lovely to meet you!
    And oh my gosh my partner does that with the frying pan! Annoying.com 🙂

  10. Kyles Reply

    Sarah, this is such a lovely idea. I loved reading this post and hearing Natalie’s blogging story. I’m looking forward to meeting more of the members #coolmumclub

  11. beautybabyandme Reply

    Such a fantastic post – really felt like I got to know you! Will be following your blog from now on and thank you for such an honest account of those first few months – I’m due in two weeks and have all these things to consider. A brilliant post xxx

  12. motherhoodtherealdeal Reply

    Lovely series – great to be able to get to know our awesome #coolmumclub members a little better – looking forward to the next! xx

  13. cvnxena Reply

    I already follow natalie on twitter and am an avid reader and this post makes me love her even more! I can’t believe you don’t spend more time on it, it’s amazing – i’ve definitely got some blogger envy going on now :p Thanks for hosting the #coolmumclub it’s one of my fav linkies

  14. Sarah Reply

    What a lovely way to meet the face behind the blog! Lovely to meet you. I’ve just started blogging but feel like I have ideas bursting out of me but no time to do any of it! Like you, I’m limited to the morning nap time and stew hrs in the evening, once I manage to get the boys settled! All the best with your log and enjoy the boat! How exciting! #coolmumclub

  15. Nadia - ScandiMummy Reply

    Lovely to get to know you better! Fab idea featuring the mums 🙂 #coolmumclub

    Nadia – ScandiMummy x

  16. Rebecca @ AAUBlog Reply

    great feature! I am definitely one for adding chilli to every meal I make too #coolmumclub

  17. newmummyblogcom Reply

    I love this series already… It’s lovely getting to know Mum In Brum better, the blogger behind the blog. Good luck with the sailing, I’d love to live by the sea too. Your blog is fab, and really as our daughters are similar ages, I can relate to pretty much all your posts! #coolmumclub

  18. Sleepingthroughyet Reply

    A great series, its great to find out more about the bloggers. I’d also love to live near the sea one day! Great first guest post! #coolmumclub

  19. Mrs Tubbs Reply

    Lovely to hear more about the person behind the blog! Good luck with growing your blog so it adds to your freelancing income.

  20. occupation:(m)other Reply

    Ah this is lovely, I love finding out more about fellow bloggers. Nice idea to link it to the linky too! #coolmumclub

  21. Claire at Tin Box Traveller Reply

    I discovered Natalie – my blogging twin – on another linky and love her posts. Good luck with the freelance business Natalie – you’ll do great! x #coolmumclub

  22. anothermuminlondon Reply

    Really good luck to you Natalie. I really loved reading about you. Those struggles at the start of motherhood are so emotional and friggin hard. Lovely to read that you and Taylor have that bond now. Looks like you are I are pretty much the same age. My son is also 11 months 🙂
    Vix x
    #bestandworst

  23. Mum in Brum Reply

    I just wanted to hijack this feed to say thanks so much for all of your lovely comments which have put a big grin on my face – and to MMT for starting this great community. It’s so lovely reading all of the supportive messages from you all and this is exactly what makes blogging so great! Looking forward to discovering all of your brill blogs xxx

    1. MMT Reply

      It’s the star of the show! Thank you Natalie, for writing a fab guest post and getting the Meet the members ball rolling. I have loved sitting back and watching your post get the love it deserved today! What can I add that everyone else hasn’t already (THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR THE COMMENTS). Nat – Your comment made me feel a little like I had done something a bit special…and that maybe all this nonsense blogging is creating something special. Thank you xxx

  24. Mrs Lighty Reply

    I love this! Love finding out about other people’s lives (yes I’m very nosey!!) and especially about blogging inspiration! Thanks for sharing on #coolmumclub 🙂

  25. rhymingwithwine Reply

    Just popping by for a second time through #coolmumsclub Just as good second time around ;0)

    Thank you for hosting x

  26. Melissa Reply

    Great post and guest post. Very true, it’s hard for many of us moms to just talk about ourselves, as we’re always wrapped up in others (kids, spouse, news, blog audience..) but I’m so glad you were able to flow with it and get a sense of you being a person too. We need that! And always great to meet another Libra! 😉 #coolmumclub

  27. Mums Monster Map Reply

    Cute pics and lovely read. The feeling of being a failure seems such a common one and it’s why I started blogging. So glad you found out what was wrong with Taylor, we had a difficult time with our second and Gaviscon Infant was a godsend. Thank you will definitely check out your site 🙂

  28. helen gandy Reply

    What a lovely post, I do love finding out more about the blogger behind the blog and how a blog started and has evolved. Thanks for hosting #coolmumclub and for linking up to the #bestandworst 🙂 x

  29. absolutely prabulous Reply

    Ha ha don’t come to Malta. The queuing next to you. OMG happened to me again today and then she just sort of pushed me out the way. Standard. Have lived here 10 years and I still can’t get used to it. Then I return to the UK and realise I’m queuing like a Malteser. Pfft.
    Chilli to everything: my husband would love you.
    Changed my mind. Do come to Malta. I live right by the sea 🙂
    #CoolMumClub

  30. min1980 Reply

    Always fascinating to read about different people’s experiences and why they started blogging. Looking forward to reading more in this series.

  31. Anna Brophy Reply

    Really lovely getting to know other bloggers! And I completely understand about the early months with your daughter…my son was a dream(ish) first up…then I got my spirited one…she still is.. sleep is over-rated and she is full throttle every waking moment…tough now, but I know I hope this for a female in our world today…just need to get through till then….!!

    1. Anna Brophy Reply

      ooppps…#coolmumclub …not so cool now, though….he he he

  32. This Mum's Life Reply

    So lovely to find out more about you Natalie! I’ve read some of your other posts on other linkies, but will definitely head over to your blog to read some more! I had the same bonding struggles with my first baby too, just another bomb that dropped that I wasn’t expecting… Well done on a fab post for the debut of meet the members!
    #coolmumclub

  33. Something Crunchy Mummy Reply

    What a great post. So nice to read more about other bloggers and get a little incite into their lives and why they started to blog. #coolmumclub xx

  34. Becky Pink Reply

    Your story is really similar to mine, kind of spooky in fact! I went self employed as a copywriter last year after 2 babies, and am still suffering the odd guilt pang from failing at breastfeeding (even though my brain knows that is ridiculous!) I also hate side by side queuers. It really freaks me out. So glad your little one got so much better, even if it did take a spell in hospital (that must have been so awful) Becky x #CoolMumClub

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  36. thebusymumnet Reply

    I’ve been loving your blog for a few weeks now, but it’s great to hear more about you, your life & aspirations for Mum in Brum – really inspirational! Keep doing what you’re doing!x

  37. Amina Reply

    I love your blog. Great to see you on #coolmumclub I’m a fellow brummie too! Nice getting to know you.

    Amina

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