#coolmumclub: Meet the Members…The Years are short

I have to fess up, I don’t know every member of the gangs blog inside out…yet. But that’s what I love about this series. Although I knew of The years are short – I’ve probably read a few posts and liked or commented them, I couldn’t tell you much about the author. Until now… I loved reading Robyns submission for #coolmumclub Meet the members. A pretty cool Mum, living in New Zealand, doing what she can to make the best of these short years. She sounds like my kind of girl. Enjoy.

x MMT

The Years Are Short

Hi

I’m Robyn from The Years Are Short, and I like stealing kisses off my too-busy-for-affection toddler, walking my sweet happy dog and having cups of tea and biscuits in the evening with my husband, Mark…

I’m having flashbacks to my former corporate life right now, where boardroom ice-breakers were the bane of my existence and a common cause of panic attacks! Not even exaggerating about the panic attacks. Considering the sight of blank faces or a blank page waiting for my input gives me a mixed feeling of dread and butterflies (dreadful butterflies?), it’s incredible to me that I’ve managed to post to The Years Are Short almost daily since mid-August 2015, when I naively thought blogging would be a good hobby. Don’t get me wrong, it’s all good – but it’s not a hobby, it’s an obsession.

Girl Friday becomes a mother

I’ve never known what I wanted to ‘be’. As told by my parents, I had pre-school ambitions to become a waitress. Well, I became a waitress eventually and it wasn’t as glamorous as I’d presumably thought. I’ve also been an English teacher, a cafe slave, a government drone and a ‘Girl Friday’. I’d never heard the term Girl Friday until I was called one and had to look it up to be sure I wasn’t being insulted. According to the Urban Dictionary it is “A ‘go to’ girl; a female who will help you get things taken care of; … a girl who does most of the leg work on a project, but never takes (or gets) credit.” I’m still not sure how to take that, she sounds like a bit of a handy doormat…!

For a long time I wasn’t even sure that I had a calling to be a mother. I always thought I’d be the type of person who said they didn’t want children until it was too late and then decide perhaps I did after all. Thankfully life had other plans and on a blustery day in November 2014 a little boy was born on a lonely roadside stretch of State Highway 6, NZ. Jo was one month early, in an enormous hurry, and has more or less been insisting that everything happens on his terms ever since. For example, I had plans to go back to work when he was 4 months old. It was a necessity to service the mortgage on our house in one of the most expensive regions in the country. But he refused to settle at daycare and so I quit work, we sold the house and relocated to a less lovely but more affordable part of the country.

Day 1

Like motherhood, relocation turned out to be an enormous unexpected blessing. Here we are almost 12 months after I intended to return to work and I’m still living on my own time (or baby’s time, more like). I love spending the days at home with Jo and our dog, having meals, naps and strolls together. Especially at this time when he’s developing in leaps and bounds, I’m glad I can be the one to encourage and praise him. I only wish we could win Lotto so my husband could stay home too! Being a one-income family hasn’t come without its strains and stresses though and a return to work has been looming on my horizon for several months.

Taking the blog by the horns

It struck me that if I had to quit the best job of my life (being a stay at home mum), I wanted to quit it for something else I loved. I pondered what job title I’d like to pronounce next time someone asked me what I ‘do’, and decided ‘Writer’ would be a fine response. It seemed that the only way I could begin writing immediately with no money, no experience, no contacts and no best-selling plot line was to start a blog. So I did.

I didn’t start blogging with a view to making a living from it (just as well!), I started more with a view to building up a little portfolio of writing in case I ever got the opportunity to show a client or employer that I could string a sentence together and write on a variety of topics. At first I thought I’d just set The Years Are Short up, if I was never brave enough to post anything on it, no-one would know. Then I nervously wrote and published my first post with a feeling of dreadful butterflies, I’m sure no-one saw it except Mark. After I had a couple of weeks’ worth of posts in the bag I apprehensively revealed my blog to family and friends and it’s been gathering momentum, in fit and starts, ever since.

Blogging is my ideal combination of pottering on the laptop, tinkering with words and rubber necking on social media. I can’t ever see the end of the on-the-job learning that goes along with it, there’ll always be growth to achieve and improvements to be made. I don’t know what life has in store for me over the coming 12 months (maybe another baby or a new job) and how that will change my approach to blogging, but I do know I won’t always be lucky enough to have so much time and energy to devote to it.

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If you’d told me 10 years ago I’d be married to a man from the other side of the world, have a spirited toddler and a silly dog, live near the beach and spend my days making something I’m proud of out of  blank pages and a jumble of words, I wouldn’t have believed I could be so lucky. So I say (though I may be foolishly tempting fate!), bring it on. Let’s see where life leads me next. No doubt I’ll blog all about it!

x Robyn

Read more of Robyns blog, The Years are short here.

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41 thoughts on “#coolmumclub: Meet the Members…The Years are short

  1. Robyn - The Years Are Short blog Reply

    Thanks SO MUCH for having me MMT. It’s my first-ever guest post and I’m so excited to share this with everyone I know (but trying to be a little bit cool about it too 😉 …) xx

    1. MMT Reply

      Ha ha, enjoy your moment Robyn! Keep your eye open Thursday when it will probably get a little more attention xxx

  2. Trista, Domesticated Momster Reply

    Nice to meet you Robyn. Trista, Domesticated Momster Thanks for hostessing Sarah!

  3. Becky Pink Reply

    Ah what a lovely story, good for you for being so brave and quitting your job and moving! It sounds rather terrifying but has obviously worked out really well for you! Becky #coolmumclub

  4. islandliving365 Reply

    What a cool story. I love Robyn’s positive, just do it, attitude! #coolmumclub

  5. Something Crunchy Mummy Reply

    This is lovely. Such a lovely read. #coolmumclub xx

  6. This Mum's Life Reply

    Aaah Robyn, reading that just made me feel all warm and fuzzy!! The love for your baby, family, and change of lifestyle is glaringly evident, and lovely to hear about. Well done for leaving your job, it sounds terrifying! I’m also super impressed you’ve managed to post on your blog every day!! I can just about manage once a week!! Lovely to know more about you, and to read this snippet of loveliness. X
    #coolmumclub

  7. wendy Reply

    I love this, such a positive post. Very brace to leave your job & move. I would love to hear more about how baby Jo ended up being born at the side of the road! Good luck with your blog Roby x #coolmumclub

    1. wendy Reply

      *Robyn. ..oops x

  8. 2teens1preteen Reply

    Oh your life sounds super cool and a little bit perfect – lovely to meet you on here! Am going to head over to your blog and have a little read #Coolmumclub xx ps the photo of you watching the barge – looks just like where I grew up!

  9. sarahandlouisemumstheword Reply

    Hi Robyn, thanks for sharing your story. It’s always lovely to read other mums’ experiences! That’s what we love about mum blogging – everyone has such different backgrounds and experiences but there is always something to relate to!
    Thanks to MMT for hosting this, we are brand new bloggers (5 weeks in!) and loving finding our feet and connecting with others. Awesome. Sarah and Louise x

  10. Lucinda Leo Reply

    “Blogging is my ideal combination of pottering on the laptop, tinkering with words and rubber necking on social media.”

    Yes! I love that. I used to get the ‘dreadful butterflies’ whenever I was near the place I used to work. That was 20 years ago now and they moved offices a long time ago but it was only when I took my 12 year old to see Hamlet near there recently that I realised I’ve finally got over my workplace PTSD!

    These days I home-educate my 10 and 12 year old and belong to an incredible network of homeschooling bloggers around the world – I’m so blessed.

    Your life sounds pretty idyllic too. Thank you for your uplifting post. 🙂

    And Sarah – thank you for sharing, and for hosting my new favourite link-up!

    1. MMT Reply

      That was my absolute fave bit too Lucinda 🙂

  11. Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love) Reply

    What a lovely post and so lovely to read more about you Robyn and the story behind your blog. Jo’s arrival into the world certainly sounds quite dramatic! What a big decision it must have been to leave work and relocate and glad that it seems to have worked out so well for you. I can definitely relate to blogging being an obsession but it’s brought me into contact with such a lovely community of fellow bloggers that it’s been a good thing overall! 🙂 #coolmumclub

  12. crummymummy1 Reply

    Love your story and hearing more about the person behind the blog! So pleased it’s all working outx #coolmumclub

  13. mummyinatutu Reply

    this is really great. and what a surprise birth!!
    #coolmumclub

  14. beautybabyandme Reply

    Such a lovely warm introduction to you! I’ll be sure to follow your blog xx #coolmumclub

  15. motherhoodtherealdeal Reply

    Lovely to get to know Robyn a bit better! Loving meeting all the fab #coolmumclub members this way fab co-hosty! xx

  16. Squirmy Popple Reply

    Your life and family in NZ sound lovely! I’ve always wanted to visit but it’s just such a long flight from the UK – maybe once my wee one is a bit older! #coolmumclub

    1. MMT Reply

      I agree! #coolmumclub roadtrip?! 🙂

  17. Helen Reply

    Lovely writing style. You are indeed a ‘writer’. Well done for being so cool about going where life takes you (at the command of little Jo!). x #coolmumclub

  18. The Anxious Dragon Reply

    Hi Robyn, wow, your life has really turned upside down in the last few years. Its great that it has worked out so well for you. And I totally agree, blogging is an obsession xx #coolmumclub

  19. rhymingwithwine Reply

    Hi Robyn! We’ve “chatted” a few times but I’ve loved finding out more about your story and what brought you into this blogging world. I like the term “Girl Friday” and had never heard of it until now. I shall be using it henceforth… 🙂

    I will really look forward to reading more of your brilliant posts in the future.

    Thank you for sharing MMT x

    #coolmumclub

  20. Mrs Tubbs Reply

    I love finding out more about the person behind the blog 🙂 Robyn’s blog is one of my favourites. (Not that I have those, of course as all blogs are my favourites!)

  21. nightwisprav3n Reply

    Change can be a scary thing and you went with it! Good for you! It is very nice to meet you Robyn! Your blog sounds great. I will have to take a stop over there and check it out!

  22. Nat Reply

    Ah that was gorgeous! Life sounds just peachy.

  23. thebrightnessofthesedays Reply

    I’ve only recently found Robyn’s blog but think it’s fab – it’s so nice to learn more about the person behind it. Am also a little envious since I’m shortly returning to work! #coolmumclub

  24. Nadia - ScandiMummy Reply

    Beautiful post! Love learning about other bloggers xx #coolmumclub

    Nadia – ScandiMummy

  25. Mum in Brum Reply

    What a lovely post – it’s great to get to know you better. I think you made a super brave decision to relocate so that you didn’t have to return to work so soon – you can tell that you’ve appreciated every minute of it. You’re right, blogging is an obsession! But there are far worse obsessions to have…Amazing that you’ve managed to post daily, I really struggle to find the time (or more like be productive with my time!) X #coolmumclub

  26. mackenzieglanville Reply

    Oh she sounds so lovely, I too chose to stay with kids and being on one wage is hard, I do a little work but not enough call it a wage. But the sacrifices are so worth it to our family and honestly to my sanity. #coolmumclub

  27. newmummyblogcom Reply

    What a great post! I’m off to check out your blog now!!
    This is what I love about your series MMT, I stumble across blogs that are intrigue me, and people who I think, I need to read your blog regularly, who’s style of writing appeals. #coolmumclub

    1. MMT Reply

      Me too Lynne…I was just thinking it’s funny how your blog regular reads evolve. When you first start out you only know the ‘big guns’ of blogging, but there are so many amazing lesser known blogs around every corner. Thanks for reading…looking forward to featuring you! x

  28. Mess and Merlot Reply

    If someone had told me 10 years ago I ‘d be married, have left the 9-5 life and be the proud owner of two humans I’m not sure I would have believed them! Good luck to the future whatever it may hold!

  29. Becky, Cuddle Fairy Reply

    It’s lovely to get to know you Robyn. It’s amazing how we each start our blogs for one reason but then it takes off & gets a mind of its own. It’s such a lovely & supportive community. Congrats on your first guest post! #coolmumclub

  30. Lisa (@backsnbumps) Reply

    Lovely to meet you Robyn. I love these type of posts to get to know fellow bloggers more. You were very brave to give up work, I still don’t know what I want to be when I ‘grow up’. My game plan consists of winning the lottery but muddling through until that happens!

  31. Mrs Lighty Reply

    Ah I love this! Your motivations for blogging sound exactly the same as mine, abs yesterday someone actually told me that they’d read my blog with a view to giving me more freelance writing work! So it does pay off! Looking forward to reading more of your journey 🙂

    MMT, I love this series for the same reason as you: it’s such a fab way of finding out more about bloggers that I know I’ll love, even if I haven’t quite come across them just yet 🙂 Thanks for hosting #coolmumclub!

  32. yneely Reply

    Lovely to meet you and good luck as you continue on your blogging journey. #Coolmumclub

  33. DomesticatedMomster Reply

    I relate to your story Robyn. I too became an “unexpected” mother at 36. First with two step sons and then with 3 babies of my own. 3 in 3 years. Talk about a drastic change in my life. I too had a career before but staying home and raising my kids has been a journey of laughs and tears…not sure which more of some days. #coolmumclub

  34. Robyn Reply

    My gosh, I’m absolutely aglow with all the lovely comments here, and feel more a part of #coolmumclub than ever. This must be that feeling of ‘community’ that bloggers who’ve been around for a while talk about, I can’t wait to drop in on all the commentators above and keep the good vibes alive. I can’t tell you how fabulous it is to get some positive feedback, I’m definitely going to remember this on days when I wonder if I’m shovelling poop uphill 🙂 Thanks again MMT for the fab opportunity, it’s been magic!

    1. MMT Reply

      And it’s comments like this Robyn, that remind me its all worthwhile too xxxx

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