I have sooo much in common with Sarah and Louise. Firstly I’m a Sarah. Secondly, I’m a Kent girl. Thirdly I’m a massive fan of silly… It must be so nice to share your blog with your BFF. It sounds like they have a right giggle along the way…good luck girls! We love your blog!
Allow me to set the scene.
It’s 1995, we are dressed in something tie dyed with khaki combat trousers and Adidas gazelle trainers. We have long, straight, centre parted hair and loads of leather bracelets. There is a waft of patchouli incense in the air and Alanis Morrisette is wailing about the irony in everything. We are wailing along with her.
Sarah and I have known each other for 20 years. We met through mutual friends on top of an old fort in Dover, Kent, where it was, at the time, a totally cool place to hang out if you were 15 and looking for somewhere to skulk about with your mates.
We very quickly formed a close friendship based on laughter, silliness and cans of weak lager.
Over the years we have shared and supported each other through the highs and lows of teenage angst, boyfriend bother, university stress, work and training traumas, wedding planning, marriage, pregnancies, child birth, post natal anxiety and of course through the epic journey of motherhood.
We first wrote together not long after we met at aged 15. We climbed a tree in a field near Sarah’s house on a Saturday afternoon, and equipped with a can of beer, a guitar and 3 chords, we composed a song about a boy we knew. It wasn’t our finest work (no really it was shit) but it has provided years of entertainment. (And the boy, our muse, now happens to be Louise’s husband and father of their two daughters.)
Our blog is so many things to us:
We both LOVE writing and it has provided a platform for us to explore where our writing wants to take us. We both had a few ideas for our first posts but beyond that neither of us knew if and what would end up on the ‘page’. Thankfully, six months on we are still inspired everyday by the bonkers-ness of parenting.
It’s also become an outlet for silliness. We had no idea what a ‘vlog’ was six months ago, since then we have started playing around with making videos. We’ve recorded our ‘Mother Song’ performance (if you can call it that) and Louise’s parody of ‘Wouldn’t it be Loverly’ about needing a room somewhere after a rainy half term week with the kids. We’ve got another 2 utterly stupid vlogs in the making and shed loads of ideas for others. God help us when our children become teenagers and realise what we’ve been up to!
Basically, we are just having a bit of a laugh. It’s like being 15 and up that tree all over again. Except that we are now on the wrong side of 35 and there are 5 crying children at the bottom. Actually, now I’ve written that, I’m wondering if this isn’t an early mid life crisis?? Oh bugger.
“Get down from that ruddy tree and do something useful!!”
Our blog is therapy, everyone says that but it truly is. I wish we’d started about 5 years ago! We’ve both experienced crippling anxiety, before and after having children and have at times, been pushed to our absolute limits. Now we are both in a place where writing and laughing (and wine) are our coping tools. Aside from the ‘getting it all off our chest’ aspect of blogging – one of the best and most surprising things about it, is the community spirit and the warmth that radiates from other parent bloggers. That feeling of ‘we are all in it together’ is so refreshing.
Having the blog to focus on has also given us a bit of ourselves back. Obviously we both love being mums and without our beautiful, funny, crazy children, the blog wouldn’t exist. But having a creative outlet like writing, particularly a blog – which needs almost as much nurturing and attention as the children – forces us to carve out ‘me time’ on a regular basis which would otherwise be absorbed by laundry or cleaning or something equally as mind bogglingly dull.
Believe it or not, before sprogging up, we both worked in early years; Sarah trained as a teacher and I was a nanny. Nowadays we both run our own businesses (we clearly have too much time on our hands). Sarah is a holistic therapist, trained in reflexology and baby massage and is building up a busy, successful practise. I run a nanny agency, matching super duper nannies with families across South Kent. (I, however, can only fantasise about being able to afford child care whilst I try and work. Isn’t it ironic, don’t you think?)
We live about 30 minutes from each other in South East Kent. I’m by the sea in Folkestone with my husband and 2 girls aged 4 and 6 and Sarah is out in the sticks, in a beautiful village with her husband and 3 kids, aged 1, 2 and 8.
Here’s where we are; social medially….
Aaaannnd…. A bit of shameless promotion for our businesses:
Thanks for reading!
Sarah and Louise