#coolmumclub: Meet the members…Absolutely Prabulous

If you haven’t heard of Absolutely Prabulous, then quite frankly, you must be living in a cave. Especially this last few weeks. She’s a die hard linker at the #coolmumclub, and I’m incredibly proud to call the MAD and BiB double bubble finalist one of our own. 

Prabs has the ability to make you laugh, cry, nod along, and every now and then whip up a shit storm. THAT is why she is so damn successful. Regularly found on Twitter hanging out with the cool kids, she is one to watch out for in the blogging hall of fame.

We are all rooting for you Prabs! Bring home the double! VOTE PRABS HERE and HERE

x MMT

Hello, I’m Prabs, a former die-hard city chick from London and Paris and now confirmed beach lover, having moved from the UK to the sun-drenched island of Malta ten years ago.  Ten! I’m sometimes hard pushed to explain it myself to be honest.

But much as this dusty little rock can give you cabin fever and there are things I do miss about the UK, it’s a good life, especially with three young (ish) kids, that would be hard to give up. Here’s a badly photoshopped version of why!

meet-the-members

Yes, the way they drive makes me want to stick forks in my eyes and there are not so good sides to living here which I caused controversy writing about, but it’s not a bad place to live!.

So how did Absolutely Prabulous come about? Well, in January 2010, one of my sisters said “Why don’t you start a blog?”. I was recovering from my third c-section, had no family network in Malta and couldn’t remember what sleep felt like. In my mind I thought I’ve got one kid at school, another occasionally at daycare and a newborn clamped to my breast. I’ve no idea how to manage the kids, the house, the everything and she’s suggesting I start a blog?! And what the hell’s a blog anyway and more importantly will it do my laundry?

Out loud I said “Okay then, that sounds great”.

Then four years went by.  What can I say? I was managing the kids, the house, the everything and carefully avoiding laundry.  Nevertheless, in that time I found myself doing more Facebook posts, documenting my epic parenting and housewife blunders in train wreck detail.  Many status posts later, I’d been a SAHM for nine years and it was time to DO something again. I’d become bored of using my brain purely to figure out where on earth I’d put my keys and frustrated only using my language degree to shriek “What do you mean you can only find one shoe?!” 27 times a  day.

I thought about my sister’s suggestion and how people kept saying my life sounded like a sitcom and how I ought to start a blog.  Or as Hubster put it: “You’re extremely opinionated so you’d make a good blogger.” Back. Handed. Compliment. Silly. Sod.  After enormous amounts of faffing (mainly because I was trying to figure out if a blog really could do the laundry and clean my windows) that was legendary even by my own standards (Mum Muddling Through can confirm that my procrastination is legendary), I put brain and language to more constructive use and eventually did just that.  I started a blog about the unpolished version of parenting  and womanhood, to reassure mothers that they’re doing a great job compared to me you could say!  In fact I’m so far from the polished version, a newspaper article was written about me, ahem. 🙂  Seriously though, I found a huge part of me again that had somehow got lost along the way with all the nappy changing, school lunches and maths homework.

The response to the blog’s launch blew my flip flops off.  It was the good old days when Faceberk (nope that’s not a spelling mistake) actually showed blog posts in newsfeeds before Zuckerberg and co went all ‘algorithm/make you pay for post-reach’ crazy.  People were reading, commenting, sharing and then some.  They were all over the world! And I was surprised and delighted to find that it wasn’t just mums.  Dads, Hubster’s business network, people without kids, they were/are  following the blog too.  Later on, there were fab moments such as going viral, getting on to the Huff, seeing myself on various Favourite Blogger lists and recent nominations for the forthcoming blog awards.  (Re the latter, I’m sure I don’t have a hope in hell of getting onto any of the shortlists unless that actually means they’re compiling a list of short people, in which case I’m eminently award-worthy.)  To my genuine amazement the blog is doing well, moving in the right direction with good engagement and respectable stats.  Baffling really.  Go figure.

Baffling? Yes, this is where any blog pride or horn tooting ends.   Why? Because frankly, it is an absolute miracle that I even have readers, a Tots ranking, a Klout score, daily site traffic, followers and all that jazz.  You’re about to find out why.

Disclaimer: the following is not intended to criticise anyone in the same boat or imply that other bloggers in this situation are inept.  It is purely a reflection on my own personal blog journey and perceived failings!

You see, I bumbled along for the first 18 months (cringe), avoiding Twitter like it was the Black Plague, actually thinking all one needed to achieve blog success was to stick one’s posts on Facebook – I mean Faceberk – and let shares do the job of spreading the word.  Good. Grief.  I was like the bloggerville idiot. I dared not comment on other blogs for fear of being seen as an unworthy wannabe, I wasted time struggling with plugins and fidgeting with widget-ing (just laugh at my bad joke and make an old lady happy please) and wondered who I could perform sexual favours for at Google to grow my site traffic (ok even I’m not laughing at that last one as I just set feminism back a few decades there). Jokes aside, I thought I was doing well just knowing the term ‘traffic’, vaguely recognising the concept of keywords and the phrase SEO!  Silly Billy Prabulous.  I had no clue what a linky was, not the faintest idea of subscriber lists, the huge importance of outbound links…the list just goes on.

And did I blog ‘enough’? Once a week IF that.  More like once a month for a while!

Slowly, I tried to wisen up.  My brother gave me the gift of photoshop and I haven’t looked back!  I looked at Twitter again and got addicted.  Thanks to Rodders of Modern Dad Pages who invited me to join the (now defunct) WineandBoobs, I lost my linky virginity; I actually started ‘meeting’ other bloggers and a whole other audience to my blog subsequently opened up.  Then through the course of Twitter chats with my new blogging friends including Cuddle FairyDomesticated Momster etc, I learned there’s something called Klout (which to this day confuses the hell out of me and still sounds like a sexually transmitted disease if I’m honest).

The cluelessness continued though. I didn’t know about tweeting posts to the likes of Mumsnet (still never remember!), I don’t manage to join half the linkies I like, days go by without me Instagramming, I’ve only just discovered Stumbleupon and am bamboozled and Google Plus has the same effect on me as the Maltese driving mentioned above.  Frankly, my blogging ‘career’ reads like a How-to-Be-a-Dumb-Blogger guide, with enough ‘Heavens to Betsy, she didn’t!’ moments to make one’s eyes water.  Thank you to Mess, Stress & Fancy Dress for introducing me to the Betsy phrase.

Meanwhile with jaw drop awe and amazement, I’ve watched bloggers such as Right Royal MotherLife with Baby Kicks, our very own Mum Muddling Through and the now legendary Brummy Mummy of 2 arrive on the blog scene way after me, totally clued up and smashing it with their social media presence, overall blog savvy and general confidence.  Everyone seemed to know about sponsored posts, broken links, Facebook blogger forums, domain authority, the no follow vs follow links conundrum (talking of which please show me the way to the nearest cliff) etc.

am getting my act together and am more organised than I was a year ago; earlier this year I launched the #OopsFiles, a series in which guest bloggers share their embarrassing and hilarious Oops moments.  I’ve finally started contributing to #MySundayPhoto, write more posts in general and have two other features starting soon.

But there’s a price…  My house is neglected to the point where it’s about to grow its own legs and walk off it’s just so disgusting.  I may have ‘found myself again’ but my kids don’t get the best of me, I feel like I spend my entire week blogging and I’m up til stupid o’clock with only a fraction of the output of other bloggers, to show for it.

So am I where I want to be yet? No.  I’m not at crazy traffic numbers level or making a proper living out of it yet; I have stats I can be proud of but we’re not at crazy level.  However, despite this apparent speed restriction on the tracks and occasional signal failures, I do have faith that the train will eventually pull into the station.  (I’ve NO idea what that allegory is supposed to mean but it sounded good.)

And whilst I wait for the crazy traffic/income, there is plenty of wonderful:
Relationships I’ve formed with bloggers who I now count as friends: Life with Baby KicksLife Love and Dirty Dishes and Motherhood the Real Deal; and two chicks who make me WET myself laughing, Pink Pear Bear and This Mum’s Life.  Amazing writers I’ve discovered, Twitter belly laughs I’ve had, private messages from followers about posts that have helped them, meeting total strangers out and about in Malta who are following the blog… It’s all been (and continues to be) a wonderful journey that I could never have predicted.  In fact, as I say in How to Tell If You’re Officially a Blog Geek, it’s hard to tell where the blogger Absolutely Prabulous ends and the person Prabs begins and vice versa.

And you know what? That’s not a bad problem to have….

Thanks to MMT for letting me waffle on and on. You can all wake up now x

Share Button
(Visited 258 times, 1 visits today)

57 thoughts on “#coolmumclub: Meet the members…Absolutely Prabulous

  1. Faye Elizabeth Reply

    Loved this! I’ve only recently discovered AbPrab and I think she’s great, and her blog is awesome 🙂 it’s nice to see that someone who seems to be getting it so right (from my point of view) is still a little clueless! It gives me hope for my future in blogging because I feel like I know nothing lol!

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Thanks so much for such a wonderful comment! Glad you like my blog 🙂

      1. Faye Elizabeth Reply

        No problem 🙂

  2. min1980 Reply

    Oh god Prabs this made me feel so much better reading this, mainly because it gives me hope that I am not the only blogger who has finally discovered the science of blogging after years of churning out posts, while others seem to arrive fully fledged, with a degree in SEO! Big fan of yours as you know, and have voted for you.

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Awwww thanks hunny bunny

  3. absolutely prabulous Reply

    I think I’ve read intro about four times lol. Thanks so much for the beautiful words and for featuring me. Right, I’m off to see if I can get my door frames widened.

  4. rightroyalmother Reply

    OK. “Totally clued up” is probably as far away as it’s possible to get but thank you THANK YOU for that awesome and quite possibly best comment EVER. I was actually in awe of you when I started blogging in January. The beautiful, witty and original post featured images; the genuine friendliness and overall savviness with pictures of you in shades … AND YOU LIVE IN THE SUN. I love Malta – have been there twice – but I didn’t actually think it was all that cool until I started reading your blog. I wish you all the luck in the double this year – you totally deserve it – thank you for being a huge part of this community I now find myself rather addicted to … xx (PS if you still haven’t voted for best new blog in the MADs, well, um … :)) x

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Thanks for the lovely comment. Hope you’re still in awe of me in May ha ha. Only joking. I hear you re Malta (both sides) and thanks so much for the sentiment in your words, so kind. Right, I’m off to get my door frames widened…

  5. Becky, Cuddle Fairy Reply

    You are successful because you are YOU! – Honest, witty, funny & super observant. You wrote before getting caught up in social media & linkys, you wrote to share not to get so many views. Now That you are taking it more seriously there will be no stopping you! There’s no way to balance everything so the house & laundry will see free, I know this well. Lol I’m proud to call you a friend & can’t wait to meet you in June!! :)x

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Such beautiful kind words. Thank you so much Cuddles. Means a lot.

  6. Nadia - ScandiMummy Reply

    So great to learn more about you! The whole social media has taken me a while to learn, lie, I’m still learning 🙂 #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Ah we’re all still learning! Glad you liked it.

  7. Memeandharri Reply

    Oh I love this – I have been blogging for about 8 months and have learnt a bit from this post! I have no clue what I’m doing and confused with how everyone else seems to know what to do – seriously have I missed something!?! Xxx

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      So funny how clueless we all feel. We all get there in the end though 🙂

  8. beautybabyandme Reply

    Prabs you already know how much I love your blog -it’s wonderful reading more about how you got it started! A very loyal reader here! Good luck in the awards too xx #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      That is a lovely thing to say my dear, thanks.

  9. justsayingmum Reply

    oh I’m buzzing for you – what a journey? You are smashing it Prabs! Seriously well done #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Lovely Helen, thank you, you rock x

  10. Something About Baby Reply

    I absolutely love your blog! It was one of the first I started reading when I had just started mine, it’s fab. So interesting to see how it came about and that even the best bloggers still feel clueless most of the time! Good luck in the awards #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Lovely comment, thank you very much. V kind. I think we all feel clueless lol.

  11. wendy Reply

    I love Prabs and her blog, it makes me kind of relieved to hear she didn’t know what she was doing for a long time because that’s exactly how I feel. Good luck in the double Prabs, you’ve obviously got my vote xx #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Ah thanks Wendy, you loyal follower you x

  12. sarahandlouisemumstheword Reply

    Oh god what’s Klout??? We are still so new to all this malarkey! But we love your blog Prabs, and as newbie bloggers (5 months) it’s great to hear about your journey so far.. Good luck with the nominations – you deserve them! xx

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Awww such a sweet comment x

  13. sarahandlouisemumstheword Reply

    err…. #Coolmumclub

  14. Mrs Lighty Reply

    This is brilliant, thanks for being so honest! Far from feeling like you’ve offended idiot blogger me, I feel better to know that I’m making the same mistakes as a blogger that I respect and enjoy reading. Thanks for sharing this with #coolmumclub 🙂 xxx

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Lol I did think I might offend! Thanks my dear, so nice of you.

  15. Mummy Muckups (Anna) Reply

    I love how you have just managed to give me half a dozen tips without being a big ‘know-it-all’. You rock, Ab Prab! #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Aha!! Well that is fab isn’t it? lol, I’m hepful…who knew! xx

  16. This Mum's Life Reply

    Aaah, love this Prabs!! You know I’m a massive fan of you, and your blog, and I’ve loved getting to know you better recently-and this is a brilliant addition to MMT’s fab series, and to know even more about your foray into blogging!! I’m still a social media dunce-I have the yoast plugin but have no idea what I’ve got to do to it to make it work, the whole SEO thing is like an alien language to me! I barely use Facebook, I don’t have a clue about google plus, and spend of my time on Instagram drooling over my favourite celebrities!! I really need to up my game! It’s clear how much you love blogging, and I’m rooting for you for the awards obviously!!
    #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Oh bless thanks so much my love. Love your blog too! And ditto re the awards.

  17. Emma - meandbmaketea Reply

    brilliant post! didn’t realises you were in Malta 🙂 it’s good to read about how you started. I started last sept and have been bumbling along too. only recently ramped it up! #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Ha love the ramped it up comment. Good luck and thank you.

  18. Mess and merlot Reply

    Aww Prabs!!!!! Love your blog, it’s one of the few I actually make time to read (not just ’cause it’s on a linky- shhh…..don’t tell anyone!) so basically you’re up there with Tesco online. In which case you blimmin-well SHOULD be at crazy traffic level numbers 🙂 Best of luck with the awards, how amazing would that be??!! #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Snorted. Tescos. Funny girl. Thanks love.

  19. Robina - babylists.co.uk Reply

    Lovely to get to know you! I love your #oopsfiles!
    #coolmumclub X

  20. motherhoodtherealdeal Reply

    The one…the only….my blog wifey! What else is there to say about her awesomeness or indeed, how awesome you also are my blog partner in crime! #coolmumclub xxx

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Oh Talya, big love. xx

  21. laughing mum Reply

    already following – definitely makes me giggle! 🙂

  22. Rhyming with Wine Reply

    I love love love this! I only discovered Prabs quite recently and I love her work! I also have no clue about Klout. SEO is a bit lost on me, and half of the things that are even mentioned in this post left me blinking at the screen thinking “I need to Google that…” It inspires me to know that Prabs doesn’t really get hung up too much on these things too though as she is super cool and successful and quite rightly deserves her nominations! Fingers crossed for her on all counts!

    Thanks for sharing MMT xx #CoolMumClub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Printing, framing and hanging this comment on my lounge wall, lol. Thank you ever so much for such high praise, from such a talented blogger x

  23. ljdove23 Reply

    Said it before and I’ll say it again, I LOVE your blog!! I have never even heard the word Klout until right now, I’m going to have to sort that out!! Fab post, love getting to know more about how others started blogging, #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Awww lovely Laura thank you so much. You know I feel the same about yours!

  24. tinboxtraveller Reply

    Ha! I started off blogging in exactly the same way as you. It took me about a year to start a Twitter account, I didn’t know what linkies were until after that and I only set up my Instagram after two years. Three and a half years in and SEO still baffles me 🙂 #coolmumclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      Well that is definitely reassuring to read lol! Tks for reading x

  25. cheryl @ Tea or Wine Reply

    I love your blog and style Prabs!! And you give me so much inspiration. Not just because you’re a similar forty something, but I LOVE to hear that as successful as you are now, you were a bit clueless in the beginning and not up on all the social media, SEO and what not. This gives me great hope!! I sometimes have no idea what others are talking about and bumble along. Like you, I hope my train also pulls into the station! Good luck with your nominations, we are all rooting for you! #CoolMumClub xx

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      I love you for saying I was clueless in the beginning. I still am! Thanks for reading.

  26. My Petit Canard Reply

    I love this post, as usual its awesome on so many levels. Funny but so real too. Im totally in awe of what you’ve achieved. You definitely have a unique voice that stands out there in bloggersville, and if that isnt making it I dont know what is :-). I totally owe you an Oops file post by the way (it sounds like we may have a few things in common that we’re not so good at 😉 Emily #coolmumsclub

    1. absolutely prabulous Reply

      What an absolutely lovely bunch of things to say! Thank you. Truly appreciative.

  27. Mrs Tubbs Reply

    I could have written this. I wrote for a year before I knew what was a linky was or shared a post on social media. OTH, it mean I learnt a lot about how to format blog posts and writing without anyone actually noticing! Love this, it’s great finding out more about the person behind the blog 🙂

  28. absolutely prabulous Reply

    Thanks my love.

  29. […] has given a huge piece of me back to myself (which you can read about in my guest post for Mum Muddl... absolutelyprabulous.com/blog-stars-april-awesome-posts-i-read-in-april
  30. tammymum Reply

    That’s a fab post, I do love your blog and it was really good to learn about more about it and you! Good luck for the awards!! #coolmumclub

  31. absolutely prabulous Reply

    Aww thank you so much

  32. […] do I start?!  This is just a small selection of my blog-bumbling (you can read some more in my ... absolutelyprabulous.com/guilty-blogger-confessions
  33. […] my post about my blogging journey that I wrote for Mum Muddling Through, I mention just some of the ... absolutelyprabulous.com/a-big-fat-prabulous-thank-you-bibs2016

Leave a Reply